My Daughter Got Beat Up By Her Husband Last Night While She Was Asleep

[Deleted member 12723]

The domestic violence lady told my daughter that sometimes they bring them into the court one person at a time. I am concerned because my daughter is so nervous to see him. She was told not to look at him at all. I know she needs a lawyer and she says no. She is confident that she can take care of this problem by herself.

Years ago she had to file a restraining order on a boy from high school and he had a lawyer and she did not. She won the order. I am feeling overwhelmned by her finances.

Today she has the job interview for the dispatcher for the police. I hope and pray she gets the job, even if it is only part time. At least she will have some money kicking in. I will write her a check so she can file for divorce. She will have to wait six months for it to be final.

anni he is being a angry jerk and not paying the mortgage. I am so afraid of him. I do not know what his frame of mind is. I hope and pray he will get convicted of a felony. My daughter seems to think that they will put him in a ankle bracelot and he will be under house arrest. I hope he does some jail time. It probably will not be for very long.

I so want to thank you all for your support and prayers. It is keeping me going. I am on pins and needles until the court date is over.

We are going through our money fast. We will have to pay her bills so she can continue to live and we will have to help her get into a new place.

I have been using the credit card to pay for things instead of writing checks. I have a eight hundred dollar bill to pay. It really upset my husband. We are going through the money so fast. I am glad we have it but it is hard to see our cushion of savings shrink so fast.

He was not this way in the beginning. She said he never said anything bad about us. I had to take zannex today. I will feel great relief when this court day is behind us.

 

[Eleanor]

((((((gizmo)))))) Praying for all of you.

 

[intothelight]

Hi Giz,

I am happy for you and your daughter that he is not the parent of your grand daughters. With that out of the picture then she really can walk away and never look back. :)

Financially it is really hard as a single parent. I don't know if her ex is paying the mortgage or not; but even if he isn't, it will take months before the bank would take any action on the house. (Assuming all is current.) At least that will give her a place to live and an opportunity to get a little more financially secure.

Giz, don't forget to take care of yourself. You have a lot on your plate in caring for your husband and helping your daughter.

:hug:

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thanks for the reminder to take care of myself Deb. I really need to do a better job of that. I am going to go and get my hair dyed later on today and I will get my nails done next week.

My husband is really lost this morning. He is having a real hard time remembering things poor thing.

I have not talked to my daughter this morning and so I do not know how the interview went. I sure hope she can get a job. Mabe it could turn into a full time job for her if she gets it.

I am trying not to think crazy thoughts about what he might do. I do tend to worry. But he has respected the order.

I really appreciate the support, it is helping me so much.

I am managing to stay on top of stuff. I am getting things done around here. I already took a shower so I am ahead in the day. We are supposed to go food shopping today and I do not know if my husband is up for it.

I worry about my daughter, the stress of this is getting to her. She tries to take naps when she can. I think it would be good for her to get a job because it would be a distraction for her. She is carrying the whole world on her shoulders right now. It is all getting to her.

I really enjoyed it when she came over to visit us on Wed. I will see her on Sun. I will try to help her out with her bills. I want to help her and yet we need her to get some sort of income.

Because of the economy there are not many jobs to be had.

I remember when I left my husband for his alcoholism and no one would hire me. I did not have much money.

My daughter will have to file for bankruptcy. Her name is on the mortgage.

We will have to set her up in an apartment. I am glad that she has some time before she is evicted. He is not paying the mortgage. He is such a jerk. I can think of worse things to say about him but I cannot print them here.

 

[Eleanor]

I am glad you are remembering to take care of yourself. I can only imagine how heavy all the responsibilities feel to her right now. It might help to keep reminding her that "right now you are ok." She does indeed have months - maybe years before the bank takes the house, and when they do, she can negotiate "cash for keys" - in CA a lot of people are getting 5-6 thousand dollars to leave. And she only needs the one job.

You could remember that "right here, right now, everything is ok. I am safe, and everything is ok." too. :-)

Sending you all good healing spring energy from here...

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you very much Eleanor. Hugs. It is good to take it one day at a time. We will get through this.

My husband is worried about our money situation and my daughter has no income so it falls to me to help her out. I am grateful we have the funds.

I will see her on Sunday and I will have her get her bills out and a calculator and figure out what I can do.

She said the interview went good, but there are alot of people applying for the job. We really need a miracle.

We will get through this one day at a time.

My daughter is so desperate. She is taking alot of naps, probably to escape her reality.

The court date is coming up soon. I hope she will be able to handle seeing him in the courtroom. I will let you know how it turns out.

I am so glad she changed the locks on her house. He cannot just walk in on them anymore. I am grateful that he is staying away. I hope she gets a judge that looks down on domestic violence.

 

[safenow]

Keeping all of you and yours in my prayes, gizmo.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you safenow. I really appreciate the prayers. We can surely use them.

My husband was so lost today. He is so worried about the money. I want to pay the fee for her to file for divorce. And pay off some of her bills so she can keep on living in the house. Big hugs.

I really appreciate the support. It is keeping me going.

 

[Abrasky]

Best wishes Gizmo.:)

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you so much Maze. Big hugs.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I have not heard from my daughter this morning. I know she has to go to court for the permanent restraining order and she will see him.

I have to take the dog to get her shots today so I will call my daughter later. I left a message on her machine. I sure wish she had called me. I am feeling so nervous. I sure wish she did not have to go through this.

Usually she calls me in the morning, but she did not call me this morning so I am worried.

 

[nursenurse]

Those court things are like a waiting game, they never go on time. Try not to worry, I pray for you guys that all will go as it should.