Confessing To My Therapist

[Icu]

I drive right past T's house at least 10 times a week.

Do you do so to check on him and on purpose or is it accidental? I imagine in a small town it is pretty different to if one lives in a large city like I do. I wouldnt do that to a friend as I would feel I was stalking them.

 

[Tefivu]

As someone who has been stalked, YES, there is a creep factor to it! I'm sorry that everyone is perfectly safe in their own little worlds, but speaking as someone who has had their space violated, this is NOT a minor issue where nothing wrong has been done.

If you were a 250 pound weight lifting 6'3" guy who randomly drove by his petite good looking therapists office, do you think there would be a difference. This is a case of double standards. Don't fool yourself into thinking this is acceptable behavior in society. (Yes, people can get PTSD from stalking, and although your behavior was just drive-by, I don't see how you differ from previous said guy doing the same thing.)

 

[Ojaga]

I really don't see the problem here. I drive right past T's house at least 10 times a week. Every single time I check to see if his car is in his drive or not.

This isn't normal unless it's directly in your path to going somewhere else. How you know were your therapist lives is also something of issue... whether shared by your therapist or you went looking for it. This sounds fairly stalkerish though IMHO.

 

[Umec]

(Yes, people can get PTSD from stalking, and although your behavior was just drive-by, I don't see how you differ from previous said guy doing the same thing.)

How exactly does being stalked fit PTSD criterion A? The stalker would need to be a direct threat to your life by doing something to give such a feeling, at which case you haven't got PTSD due to stalking, you have PTSD due to your life being threatened by a stalker.

 

[Upuc]

Actually, if you check the PTSD criterion, you will find that it doesn't have to be a life threatening event, it can be an accumulation of smaller 'micro' traumas over time.

But thats a lil off topic.

 

[Bidopa]

Actually, you might want to recheck it... because that is nonsense.

DSM V PTSD

A. Exposure to actual or threatened death, serious injury, or sexual violence in one (or more) of the following ways:

1. Directly experiencing the traumatic event(s),
2. Witnessing, in person, the event(s) as it occurred to others,
3. Learning that the traumatic event(s) occurred to a close family member or close friend. In cases of actual or threatened death of a family member or friend, the event(s) must have been violent and accidental.
4. Experiencing repeated or extreme exposure to aversive details of the traumatic event(s) (e.g., first responders collecting human remains; police officers repeatedly exposed to details of child abuse).

[DLMURL]https://www.myptsd.com/c/wiki/posttraumatic-stress-disorder/#diagnostic-criteria-for-309-81-f43-10-posttraumatic-stress-disorder[/DLMURL]

Sorry... an event MUST meet the above criteria, and micro traumas is complete nonsense that you made up or have been fed by some half cocked therapist interpreting for themselves and their own monetary gain to charge clients.

 

[Gabu]

I have great sympathy for the original poster as she shows awareness and in later posts it is evident she is someone who has shown concern about her therapists boundaries. What I find more concerning is the few people who have answered who can't see why it would possibly be an invasion of a therapists personal space. It makes me wonder about what other boundary issues they have.

Other people recently seem to be saying it is OK but I would feel that way about looking at a T's facebook page too.

 

[Femom]

Bipoda, seriously, dont you think its a bit bullshit to be calling someone a liar to their face? Go check out some of the latest research.

Gabu, I agree. It shows progress in healthy thinking to be able to look at one's self and question intent.

 

[Memewik]

Bipoda, seriously, dont you think its a bit bullshit to be calling someone a liar to their face? Go check out some of the latest research.

That would be me...

Why don't you show me this research you claim about micro traumas equating to having PTSD... because there is no such validity. Researchers don't get to define what is diagnosable... and this is nothing new. A huge team of psychiatrists manage diagnostic mental health, let alone feedback from 50,000+ psychiatrists globally... and micro traumas over time have never equated to meeting PTSD criterion.

Micro traumas over the period of a life equate to anxiety, depression, mood and sleep disorders, as well as other disorders that adequately cover the vast and various diagnoses available for such life events and there outcomes, including every symptom of PTSD. You need to go read more and read correctly, you need to post here what you're claiming as citing, because I do know what meets PTSD diagnosis and what doesn't.

There is vast evidence going back to the 60's about compounding trauma, which is what you're talking about. Compounding minor events can impact a later significant event that meets diagnostic criterion, and vice versa, where you have major traumatic events that meet criterion A, yet PTSD doesn't appear until something happens that is considered the tipping point, such as a relationship breakdown or other event that does not meet criterion A, but PTSD is given because of the prior trauma which is what now haunts the persons consciousness.

Micro trauma only has validity to the impact of PTSD when there is also a trauma that meets criterion A. There is lots of validity in that statement, but not your statement that micro traumas over life give you PTSD. That is unfactual and nonsensical rubbish that does not meet criterion A diagnosis.

I also have no issue in telling someone their full of shit either... especially when posting nonsense without any empirical data, and certainly that no such data exists that overrides diagnostic criterion which is a legal medical statement.

I won't hide.... just so you know who you're trying to feed this nonsense to and that you need to start showing your evidence that says micro traumas over life override diagnostic criterion A to meet PTSD diagnosis.

Show me your evidence and their authority to override mental health doctrine criteria please. Because if you can't, then your statement is full of shit.

I get tired of reading nonsense that people post anonymously, or with personal bias, as though it has some factual basis. Show me your empirical evidence that the APA are apparently discarding for PTSD diagnosis and I will then listen. Otherwise, please make accurate statements from a foundation of 'empirical' data and not some random here say or other emotionally charged study that has no empirical foundation when placed against all other data.

 

[Zaseso]

compounding trauma, which is what you're talking about

well since you know what I'm talking about, would you mind not taking a bite out of me?:blackeye:

I understand that your tolerance for statements without empirical data is low, if not non-existant, which is completely understandable, however you could be (I know this is an emotionally, not logically based request) a little less savage about it.:unsure:

I'd expect a bite in the arse like that from someone else, not you Anthony. Have you had your rabies shot, or do I need to go get checked? ;)

I made that rather 'unfounded' statement because it seems to be a common misconception that you have to be shit-scared-for-your-life or raped/beaten within an inch of existence for PTSD to occur, but compound traumas (which I agree, is a more appropriate term than micro-traumas) don't all have to be in that category to lead up to PTSD.

reading nonsense that people post anonymously, or with personal bias, as though it has some factual basis

Well truthfully, I posted that from my phone, and didn't realise it was anonymous. The only time I care about being anonymous is when I'm the OP.

And yes, I suppose you could see my statement as that, however I'd like to point out that it wasn't my intent, and I'm sorry I got your hackles up over what is definitely a misunderstood and often mangled topic.

And on a fun side note, you didn't need to post up your screen shot, I knew it was you as soon as I realised.....

- perfectly formatted:angelic:
- no emotional mud slinging:tup:
- the term 'empirical data' (it was something you'd say):joyful:
- easy to understand and read:hilarious:
- still happy to take a bite out of me after I complained about the first one :D

Micro trauma only has validity to the impact of PTSD when there is also a trauma that meets criterion A. There is lots of validity in that statement, but not your statement that micro traumas over life give you PTSD. That is unfactual and nonsensical rubbish that does not meet criterion A diagnosis.

And yes, that would be more along the lines of what I was trying to say.....pregnancy brain and PTSD is a shocking mix.:dead:

But please, just ask what someone means next time, before taking a munch?:notworthy:

 

[Ocimow]

Oh for f*cks sake. I thought that was going to post as me.....to the rest of the people on this thread, it's Bubzie.

 

[Memewik]

Why make the statement then as though it is factual, if you know it isn't? You made a statement, not an opinion, hence why I jumped on it immediately. I do that regardless who it is when I read such things, because they're inaccurate. I jump on all inaccurate statements, period... so readers aren't led down the garden path of BS that they then perpetuate to others.