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Kiril

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Hey, so a bit about me, I'm 17, civilian, college student. I'm unofficially diagnose with PTSD, why unofficially you may ask, well, my psychiatrist didn't want to diagnose me with it because of the kinds of career I'm interested in and how it would limit me getting them. Okay, how did I get this way? Well, for most of my childhood I was having chunks knocked out of me by my sister, when I was 15 I was severely assaulted in school, this latter event is what has caused my problems. Other stuff happened but I'm not comfy telling you all that. Now, what's been going on with me? Well, I get very angry, scared and sad a lot, I jump whenever I hear a loud noise, I can't connect with people anymore, I self-harm, I avoid going outside, I have nightmares like every night and I sleep very very badly. I'm getting better quite quickly but hey, we all need a helping hand, right?
 
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Hey Kiril,

Welcome to the site. I talked to u briefly on the chat. Glad you didn't get kicked out because of your age lol.

I'm very Sorry to hear about you being assaulted. Kids can be so cruel. I was never assualted growing up but my "friends" always made fun of me. Sticks and stones...

I am glad you are getting better quickly though. You are right...getting help is always a good idea. Have you tried going for professional help? Or even maybe going to a support group?

Keep in touch if you ever need to talk
 
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Oh yeah, got the whole package. Helps quite a bit, bonus is I don't have to pay for it.

He was no kid, hey, my friends watched him jump up and down on my head, trying desperately to cave in my skull. Glad I inherited my dad's hard head.
 
Well, yeah. Like I'm even doing a college course to help my efforts in joining something like the Police or Military. One thing people have noted on is my empathy and general understanding of people, as well as my strong sense of right and wrong.

Hey, other people said this stuff, I'm just repeating it.
 
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In that case, I don't think your psychiatrist was being ethical. Not only did he refuse to officially diagnose you with something you actually have, but he did it so that you could be in the military or the police force. These positions could make your PTSD symptoms a lot worse. There are plenty of ways that you can use your gifts of empathy, understanding and strong morals. You probably will find a career that you can use these skills in a greater capacity than you would in the military or law enforcement.
 
You should go for the career you want. Don't let your PTSD limit you. I've done a lot of healing by pursuing a career that is full of triggers. You are the expert on the circumstances of your life, but I'm a firm believer in not letting your PTSD dictate the rest of your life.
 
I think where she was coming from was, she would diagnose me if I didn't start to get better, I did, she didn't want a label hanging over my head when going to job interviews and such.
 
PTSD is more than a label. Please read this article by Anthony: [DLMURL]https://www.myptsd.com/c/articles/understanding-ptsd.15/[/DLMURL]
I truly question the decision of your psychiatrist.
 
I'm not trying to be offensive, but it may happen.

IMHO you are actively contributing to the stigma of PTSD. Hiding a diagnosis is by fact lying. PTSD is not what is wrong with someone. PTSD is about what happened to someone.

As you said in your OP you are 17. This is still very young, and it's good to have dreams. Please don't let me discourage you from pursuing your dreams. Society has probably done enough of that to you already. But PLEASE be realistic of your career options. I don't know you, or your situation and severity of your conditions. Maybe you could have a successful career in the military or as a police officer. I don't know.

I'm retired USN (20 yrs). I was in Gulf one and two, with two cruises in between where our battlegroup fired on live targets in Iraq often.

If you enlist in the military under the circumstances you detailed above, you will be guilty of fraudulently enlisting, a crime. If you have PTSD, you have PTSD whether or not your T is avoiding writing down the words, and is in breach of the guidelines that govern their profession by assisting you to commit fraud. You must declare during the enlisting process any condition that might affect your ability to serve. The military is life and death - that is it's nature.

I hate to say it, but the stress of extended deployments, particularly if your not totally "stable" will increase the odds of you not being deployable at some point. If this happens while on deployment, you will drastically affect the person, and the persons family who has to deploy on no notice to replace you. You will affect the people you work with, because once on deployment people settle into a routine, jobs get assigned, people develop "specialties". Then you get shipped out on no notice and everything is in turmoil. Moral is affected, the efficiency of the group is affected. Your country has to spend money to ship you back, and ship out your replacement (a lot more than you think because it's not just the transportation, it's all the admin of coordinating the transportation, security clearance checks, reshuffling a new person into the job of the person who is replacing you, etc...) I could go on, but you should have an idea know of what I'm trying to say.

I have a very, very low opinion of people who fraudulently enlist. They are criminals who endanger the lives of their comrades. They are a security risk. They are unworthy of trust.

As for police work... Just being a police officer can cause PTSD by it's self.

I was on an anti-terrorist/counter terrorist team for 2 1/2 years in the navy. A collateral duty (part of the job) was reserve military police officer. I worked with DOD police, the local cities police (several local cities), Sheriffs, Highway Patrol, and assisted the Secret Service (as expendable outer shield usually) in protecting President Reagan when he transitioned to/from Airforce One while going to/from his ranch in Santa Barbara and local functions.

With the above experience, I can say with confidence that someone with PTSD should avoid in most circumstances becoming a police officer. If you have, or are borderline PTSD, you probably will be destroyed by the stress of the job unless you join some little country town that the worst thing that happens is "Bubba" getting drunk on Fridays. Even then, do you really want to have a gun with you, walk into a situation where people are trying their best to piss you off, and even physically attack you. Will you have the presence of mind to function, or will you suffer a PTSD episode? Are you willing to endanger the lives of your fellow officers in a crisis? If PTSD is contributing to an already stressful situation will you be able to keep situational awareness? Keeping situational awareness is critical to the job. The more stress you are under, the more likely you will develop tunnel vision on the person that is the biggest perceived threat. That person may not be the one that kills you and/or a fellow officer(s). Fact: most police officers that are shot, are shot with their own gun.

Just some things to think very seriously about. Best of luck in your career of choice.
 
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I'd like barbarians post 20 times if I could.

I'm not sure why you want to go into a career that has a higher than average probability of exacerbating your symptoms. I think that if you do indeed have PTSD that you have to face the fact that your nerves are pretty much shot in terms of what is required for that type of work.

Maybe your supposed PTSD isn't so bad right now. But what if the military pushes your symptoms to the point where recovery isn't likely? It could happen, and if it does I think you'll end up with huge regrets, thinking WHY did I play with fire?!?

And then there are the ethical ramifications. You are usurping the system designed to keep the public safe. There are reasons why the military and police screen out those with PTSD. But, you don't care. You just want what you want without regard for society and the regulations which are in place to keep the public safe. Don't misunderstand what I'm saying---- I'm not saying we're all a bunch of whack jobs, rather we have a lot lower tolerance for stress, and when the stress cup overflows, (which it will faster than that of a non-PTSD person), it's not always pretty.

I'll stop now as posts like this get under my skin. But thanks for coming on here and admitting how you are going to lie to future employers thereby putting the public at risk. We all thank you for that.
 
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