HëllaBubz
Diamond Member
I just hit the 'send' button, on an email that I can never take back. But I might have second guessed myself for too long if I'd waiting, and my brother approved the order of events, so now I sit back and wait.
I read the letter out to my brother, and he said he wouldn't change a single thing.
In his own words, which he said to my mother a week ago, after spending half an hour listing all the reasons why he didn't want to be around dad, "I'd like the man if he wasn't such a c*nt.".
F*ck I love my brother.
Here is the general email I sent out, and I've attached the letter I sent.
Hi,
Please allow my parents some privacy during this time, as I respect and acknowledge that this is not pleasant and will require adjusting from both sides.
I've attached a document I need you to read.
Before you read it, could you please keep in mind the following, as I think it's very important;
1. I'm not trying to hurt anyone, or start fights.
2. No one has 'done' anything, to prompt this document.
3. I've spent 2 months writing and rewriting this, because I don't want it to be seen as vindictive, nasty or airing dirty laundry. I've taken great care to try to avoid that, and this is not about mud slinging.
4. I do not gain any pleasure from sending this, but rather, a combination of deep hurt and resounding peace.
5. I want to send this before the party, so that those who are uncomfortable have the opportunity to opt out if they wish.
6. Don't put my siblings in the middle of this, or make them choose sides. Be adult enough to refrain from lying, trying to soften or reason this away, as done in the past.
7. What you choose to believe is your responsibility, not mine, and so I will not judge.
8. From now on,I will discuss this topic with only my siblings at their request in a limited capacity.
9. My focus from now on is to heal and raise a family. If my focus is forced back onto this, or related topics, I will not remain in contact.
10. It is possible, and true of this situation, that a child may love their parents whilst choosing to withdraw for their own safety.
11. I do not, and will not deny my origins, or the things that have been done for me, that would be unfair and selfish. But doing things does not soften, or take away other hurts.
With Love
I read the letter out to my brother, and he said he wouldn't change a single thing.
In his own words, which he said to my mother a week ago, after spending half an hour listing all the reasons why he didn't want to be around dad, "I'd like the man if he wasn't such a c*nt.".
F*ck I love my brother.
Here is the general email I sent out, and I've attached the letter I sent.
Hi,
Please allow my parents some privacy during this time, as I respect and acknowledge that this is not pleasant and will require adjusting from both sides.
I've attached a document I need you to read.
Before you read it, could you please keep in mind the following, as I think it's very important;
1. I'm not trying to hurt anyone, or start fights.
2. No one has 'done' anything, to prompt this document.
3. I've spent 2 months writing and rewriting this, because I don't want it to be seen as vindictive, nasty or airing dirty laundry. I've taken great care to try to avoid that, and this is not about mud slinging.
4. I do not gain any pleasure from sending this, but rather, a combination of deep hurt and resounding peace.
5. I want to send this before the party, so that those who are uncomfortable have the opportunity to opt out if they wish.
6. Don't put my siblings in the middle of this, or make them choose sides. Be adult enough to refrain from lying, trying to soften or reason this away, as done in the past.
7. What you choose to believe is your responsibility, not mine, and so I will not judge.
8. From now on,I will discuss this topic with only my siblings at their request in a limited capacity.
9. My focus from now on is to heal and raise a family. If my focus is forced back onto this, or related topics, I will not remain in contact.
10. It is possible, and true of this situation, that a child may love their parents whilst choosing to withdraw for their own safety.
11. I do not, and will not deny my origins, or the things that have been done for me, that would be unfair and selfish. But doing things does not soften, or take away other hurts.
With Love
