Britt, in your post I found another one of mine "sensitive". As a child this was used on me a lot, and I still get angry when that word is given to me as a label, which then makes the giver of the label feel even more vindicated in giving it to me. I felt angry just reading it. I'm glad to identify it though.
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Words That Make You Cringe And/or Push Up Your Symptoms?
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Being called "difficult" like when I was a child.
Which sometimes makes it hard to get help or for me to say anything becasue I am worried my husband or therapist will think I am difficult.
Which sometimes makes it hard to get help or for me to say anything becasue I am worried my husband or therapist will think I am difficult.
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Candleflames
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Thank you everyone for all your sharing. Even if you couldn't write out the words you thought about them and that takes courage. I hope you don't mind how much detail I provide. I'm often told I'm a bit much to take or intimidating. I tend to just put things out there and let what comes come.
@Abstract, Thank you for the hugs. I will happily accept them.
@Abstract, Thank you for the hugs. I will happily accept them.
When someone uses the word "eccentric" it has the same effect on me as what Candleflames and Abstract described when the word "freak" is used. Hearing the word "eccentric" makes me shiver - to me it means that the other person completely doesn't understand or accept differences. As for what I call myself, well, I'm "weird" - and it's fine with me. It's a blanket term: everyone is weird in some way or the other.
As for other words:
"You" - when used by a person making a statement about their perception of me, as in "You are angry." How they know what I feel?
"Should" - often followed by "you" - as in the person believing they know what type of action is the right action for me to take.
"Molestation" - to me, the word means taking something (sexual or other) that the molester has no right to. Grrrrrgh! :devilish:
"Crazy" - a meaningless word that, to me, says the person using it is too uniformed or too lazy to use an accurate term.
Lastly, statements from others that start "I need you to . . ."
I'm typically a generous person, but when told to do something rather than being asked, my back stiffens, I shape shift into a cold stone falling into murky water that's been polluted with the attitude of not caring, and I can't, I won't, and you can't make me!
As for other words:
"You" - when used by a person making a statement about their perception of me, as in "You are angry." How they know what I feel?
"Should" - often followed by "you" - as in the person believing they know what type of action is the right action for me to take.
"Molestation" - to me, the word means taking something (sexual or other) that the molester has no right to. Grrrrrgh! :devilish:
"Crazy" - a meaningless word that, to me, says the person using it is too uniformed or too lazy to use an accurate term.
Lastly, statements from others that start "I need you to . . ."
I'm typically a generous person, but when told to do something rather than being asked, my back stiffens, I shape shift into a cold stone falling into murky water that's been polluted with the attitude of not caring, and I can't, I won't, and you can't make me!
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"Molestation" was one I was realizing I hate. I think it's similar to what you all have said about words used in contexts that denies our reality.
In Spanish it means "to bother." Well, I'm angry that what traumatized and has nearly killed me several times translates as a mere "bother." It completely glosses over the reality. It denies the severity of the offense and makes it sound less than it is.
I can't remember where I heard or read it, but some T's are calling for the word to becomes non-PC or outdated for this very reason.
Even though it makes me angry, "rape" sounds more appropriate. It goes nicely with "murder" where it belongs. :(
In Spanish it means "to bother." Well, I'm angry that what traumatized and has nearly killed me several times translates as a mere "bother." It completely glosses over the reality. It denies the severity of the offense and makes it sound less than it is.
I can't remember where I heard or read it, but some T's are calling for the word to becomes non-PC or outdated for this very reason.
Even though it makes me angry, "rape" sounds more appropriate. It goes nicely with "murder" where it belongs. :(
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FindingMyself88
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there interesting post, its making me think of words I don't really like at all.. Some have been mentioned already, but here are some others and a short reason for why.
Roaches: my real dad's house was INFESTED with the LARGE flying *ones* and he thought it was funny to throw them on me, LIVE or dead! -shudder- I will hurt somebody who tries to step in my way of getting away from them or tries to put one on me.
dishes: more so the act of doing dishes than the word… because my old step mom made me wash *them* at age 5 when i couldn't properly reach sink and if I left anything on them, i got beat.
"forget it" or "move on": people don't understand that you can't stop nightmares from happening and flashbacks!
touch: growing up, being touched was not a good thing. It normally meant being beaten by my dad, or scratched, pinched, or bitten even by my mom. I don't like people to touch me now without me knowing before hand… this is really more of an action word for me than just the word
I'm sure there is more, but i can't think straight right now!
Roaches: my real dad's house was INFESTED with the LARGE flying *ones* and he thought it was funny to throw them on me, LIVE or dead! -shudder- I will hurt somebody who tries to step in my way of getting away from them or tries to put one on me.
dishes: more so the act of doing dishes than the word… because my old step mom made me wash *them* at age 5 when i couldn't properly reach sink and if I left anything on them, i got beat.
"forget it" or "move on": people don't understand that you can't stop nightmares from happening and flashbacks!
touch: growing up, being touched was not a good thing. It normally meant being beaten by my dad, or scratched, pinched, or bitten even by my mom. I don't like people to touch me now without me knowing before hand… this is really more of an action word for me than just the word
I'm sure there is more, but i can't think straight right now!
On a milder level I detest the word selfless. Selfless? How can that ever be a good thing? No self?
It is because I was not allowed a self. I hear the word and I want to scream or delete it from the dictionary. I have pictures in my mind of martyrs and emotional bad health when I see it. The worst is when people are still seeing it as a good thing.
Really I was expected to be selfless while everyone around me was selfish - except my brother who was in there with me.
It is because I was not allowed a self. I hear the word and I want to scream or delete it from the dictionary. I have pictures in my mind of martyrs and emotional bad health when I see it. The worst is when people are still seeing it as a good thing.
Really I was expected to be selfless while everyone around me was selfish - except my brother who was in there with me.
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"selfish" I hate that word. Was called that so many times growing up. What seemed like selfishness, was just the coping methods of dissociation/detachment that I did so that I could survive. Yes, how selfish of me, as a child, to require basic parenting.
It took me at least 4-5 times of coming into this thread to even write that word. Just hate it so much.
It took me at least 4-5 times of coming into this thread to even write that word. Just hate it so much.
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Sensitive. (Cringes and runs screaming from thread)
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Hi Muse, may I ask what "non-PC" does mean? I tried to figured it out but still have no clue...
I can so relate to this! A good friend of mine, which I know now for a very long time, suffered sexual child abuse, starting at the age of five. And since I know her, there are very sad/dark times for her with this. She then acts like a robot, her eyes become "empty", her voice monotone and her blitheful nature vanishes for days, weeks even months. We once had a discussion, during which she used the exact words, I was feeling about sexual child abuse. She said: "They murdered my soul, my personality!" And in fact, that's what they've done to her!:cry:
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Being brave and re-watching the thread now :nailbiting: ;)
'trauma' and 'traumatic' I have pretty much banned my counsellor from using, and if she does use them now she prefaces it with something like 'I know you don't like the word, but...' so I at least get some warning ;)
That's the only ones I've actually been able to tell her about so far and that was in writing. It was becoming too much of a problem her using them, because I would just switch off whenever she did, which made any progress virtually impossible after. I'm not sure how much I give away externally but it's like I flinch and shrink inside when I hear them. Other ones..... 'survived' and 'abuse'......there are more but :speechless:
'trauma' and 'traumatic' I have pretty much banned my counsellor from using, and if she does use them now she prefaces it with something like 'I know you don't like the word, but...' so I at least get some warning ;)
That's the only ones I've actually been able to tell her about so far and that was in writing. It was becoming too much of a problem her using them, because I would just switch off whenever she did, which made any progress virtually impossible after. I'm not sure how much I give away externally but it's like I flinch and shrink inside when I hear them. Other ones..... 'survived' and 'abuse'......there are more but :speechless:
I'd guess non- Politically Correct (politically incorrect)
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