I am questioning even if you heal the trauma aren't you just becoming detached from the emotions, desensitized?
Emotional numbing and desensitisation are the opposite of processing. To me, processing is assimilation. If you eat a bad meal, you might have bad effects straight away and you might get toxic headaches and other symptoms within a few days. But you're not going to get food poisoning, tummy upset or headaches from a meal you had months ago which is long since digested (processed and assimilated). You might still remember eating that meal, though.
If you search the forum for threads with processing or resolving in the title, I think that will give you a view of people's thoughts on this, including mine.
if you heal the wound does it not leave a scar?
What do you mean by a scar?
Some time ago I had a bad injury to my hand and then it was treated incorrectly. As a result I was informed I'd lost the use of my right thumb and part of my right hand (I'm right-handed). Other opinions confirmed this, and it was resolutely classified as a done deal. No treatment, no cure, dead. (That was the actual word everyone used - dead.)
I refused to accept that and did various things and it healed. Now, I have a thumb that has an almost full range of motion - probably 95%. Does the 5% lost count as a scar? I couldn't care less about it. If you look at my thumb rather than glance at it, you can see that it's a bit squashed looking and actually has a dent in it. Scar? Again, I couldn't care less. If you X-rayed my thumb you'd see two thick areas in the bone where it had been broken and healed. Is it a scar, do I care? Who knows, and no. After healing I was told my thumb would always hurt when the weather was cold. Since I'd already been told I'd never move it again, and I was clearly moving it, I didn't give this piece of information more time than to laugh at it. Several years later and it has never hurt when it's cold.
Something that's a lasting effect is that I do need to keep exercising it to maintain use/flexibility. Say, twice a week I spend five minutes on this. Is that a "scar"? Maybe. Do I care that I need to do this and no-one else does? No, actually I quite like it because it reminds me to take more care of myself generally.
This is how I see PTSD too. Medical knowledge, in all its wisdom, says you will always be troubled by it. Medical knowledge is limited and it limits itself. It tells people there's no getting better, and ignores the people who do get better. My hand injury was such that medical knowledge says I lost the use of my hand. Have I regained the use of my hand? Yes. Has the medical knowledge changed? No. Someone in the same position now will be told what I was told - you've lost the use of it. I can't tell you how angry this makes me, because I know it isn't true. It's just that "medical knowledge" "knows" that it is true. So that's what people are told, and that's what they believe, and that influences them and it influences their therapists and it influences their treatment.... so, I don't put too much store in scientific evidence about PTSD. Because my dead hand is now working fine, thanks, but the medical knowledge says it isn't.
Isn't the trauma still just as real as it was before the healing or has the healing taken away it's power?
Yes, completely real. Part of processing might be allowing it to be real - in my case that's a very big thing because of the amount of amnesia, dissociation and denial I've experienced. When it's healed it's real
and it isn't attacking us any more. It's in the past, where it happened.