Relationship It's So Hard To Wait For Someone You Love When They Are Hurting

[Glara]

It's so hard knowing he's in pain and I can't tell him how much I care. It's about 6 weeks now. I know he's suffering, and I am too. He is making a point to keep in touch and he almost always responds to my texts. But he's not back yet. I'm just on here to vent. There really is no one to talk to. Nobody I know has any clue about any Iof this. I'm worried about him, and I miss him.

 

[Justmehere]

It is one of the hardest things to be a support to a loved one that is in pain that we can't fix or make better. Especially when thy are emotionally or physically distant. My heart goes out to you. I'm glad your are reaching out for support and venting. :hug:

 

[thomas1991]

I'm going through a similar thing @Glara so I know how you feel. It's crap, but just hold on

 

[Aching65]

hold on tight @Glara, i was also in the same boat as you were. I made the mistake to reach to friends of hers and mine which was a huge mistake. I knew no better at the time, and i have learned and got a lot of support on here.... I seemed to have to be blamed for everything that happened which obviously was not true.... Then she came back, and now we seem to be working things out.... and I am doing my best to try to gain her trust back ... Good luck

 

[Wastinglight]

Yep, I'm in the same boat too. You're not alone. Hang in there :-)

 

[Glara]

Thanks everyone, I know it's the same for all of us. It's just so surreal. I know he cares and he's not upset with me, he is reaching out as best he can. It's just so hard to hold back. When we were young, some 30 years ago, it was like this too. I just I figured it was the long distance. It all makes sense now that I know, and he knows. He was diagnosed a few years ago. We reconnected about 6 yrs ago, but just as friends. We only started talking romantically recently. Well, a little bit over the years but it got very serious a few months ago, probably part of what triggered this. I'm not letting him go. It's gonna take a lot more than this for that to happen. Thank God for this forum. It's the only place I have where there's people who get it. Thanks again.

 

[whserenitynluv]

In my case, the one with ptsd, I see posts like this and have to ask a question. Did you guys ever have to come to a point of tough love with your guys? And what did that look like? Thanks

 

[MorningDove]

In my case, the one with ptsd, I see posts like this and have to ask a question. Did you guys ever have to come to a point of tough love with your guys? And what did that look like? Thanks

Can you be more specific?