My Neighbour

[Nighthawk]

Just a bit of a chuckle. I met this lady down the road with a puppy.. I thought what a good idea i could challange my anxirty and take my pup to play. She seemed very nice and very caring. Her family struggels with a lot of medical issues. So something I feel quiet at home with she even opened up to me about all the medical trauma in their household. Fast forward I came to learn that her name is the same as my T so I cant forget it.

I decided I was going to bake gingerbread men and take them to her for her family. Oh boy I went in and she had a visitor who is a Phyciatric nurse and very quickly learnt that she was a T prior to having to take care of her family. Her and her friend were talking about the mentaly ill and I almost raised my hand but quickly decided to depart.

Now How do I refer to K as they are both T and I am aprehensive about continuing to pursue a possible friendship as I dont want to burden her. Any way this is not the first T I have been drawn to in the outside world. I mean how many therapists does a girl need. :D

 

[Nam]

Mmm, I don't know. But I'm pretty sure that therapists need friends too.

 

[Seagreen]

You are both just people. I think it would be fine to have a friend who worked as a therapist so long as your friendship was just that, a friendship. If either of you felt that the nature of your relationship was effected by her being a T it might not work. I have a friend who is a GP. When my first child was born she was studying medicine. I got into a habit of frequently seeking her opinion around medical questions about my baby. The last straw was when I called her in the middle of the night, during her exams to ask about my sons fever.. She eventually told me that she was unhappy about it and I realised that I had been burdening her. A friendship should come freely and be reciprocal . When the balance is disrupted, the friendship will soon crumble. So I would just keep an eye on that but otherwise I cant see why it you cant work.

 

[illusionist]

I have been friends with three therapists in my lifetime and none of them knew about my problems.They tended to have lots of their own and offloaded on me.

 

[seedling]

My answer is - a girl can never have too many therapists lol!

Maybe all it comes down to is: do you really like her? I think a real friendship starts there.

 

[Recovery4Me]

I am aprehensive about continuing to pursue a possible friendship as I dont want to burden her.

Most therapist normally are educated in & understand boundaries. Therefore, they can be capable of establishing their own opinions of what is burdensome for them and what is ok. That's the beauty of boundaries, so no worry there.

Consider what @seedling offered and just enjoy the adventure! It isn't like we have hats on with PTSD across the brim -or- need to advertise with a warning label!:hug: Congrats on your extension to socialize and pass me a ginger-cookie please.:hungry:

 

[Ellabella44]

if you like her as a person, why not continue to be a friend. dont have to tell her everything and as some said therapists need friends too. Met mine through my sister in law, she is partner of my sister in laws friend.