Why does being happy make me cry???

[Lionheart]

Dear @Lionheart777 you deserve All good things! :) :tup: :inlove: :hug:

I read this and just started crying again :cry:...thank you so very, very much @Junebug :laugh::):joyful:I am so happy and grateful that good things are finally coming my way...I don't know how to act.

many warm healing hugs for you,
:hug:

 

[Tinyflame]

Dear @Lionheart777 , 'you being you' is EXACTLY the best way to act. :) :tup:

(It's ok, I've had to call myself 'onion' sometimes because I do that to people! :laugh: )

(((((((((Sweet LH)))))))))))

 

[risingsun]

I start crying really hard

Because when you are in the presence of laughter and joy, your soul releases the pent up emotions that have been buried deep. And when you experience joy, you are moved by the experience as well.

Tears allow your soul to become more crystallized. To be able to release emotions and experience emotions is a gift. I cry when I'm happy and sad. You are purifying your soul every time you do. It means you haven't allowed your heart to become hardened and cluttered my friend. Warmest to You, Rising Sun

 

[Lionheart]

Because when you are in the presence of laughter and joy, your soul releases the pent up emotions that have been buried deep. You are purifying your soul every time you do. It means you haven't allowed your heart to become hardened and cluttered my friend. Warmest to You, Rising Sun

Wow!!! ....that is so awesome, thank you @risingsun that makes perfect sense and makes me very happy to know!!!

Thank you so much for your reply,
Warmest wishes,

Lion

 

[dougyhowzer]

I am encouraged to see that you're making progress. I believe that experiencing joy and peace is so crucial in our recovery because it is a positive sign that we are moving forward.

 

[RussH]

@Lionheart777 I find with myself two things factor in to my tearful response to feeling happy.
1. Because of PTSD my stress levels are abnormally high, so any emotion can cause an overflow resulting in tears.
2. Sometimes I don't think I deserve to be happy, be treated well, and when it happens I cry.

 

[Lionheart]

@Lionheart777 Sometimes I don't think I deserve to be happy, be treated well, and when it happens I cry.

I am reminded of the first time I had to wear eyeglasses, I cried because I didn't know what I had missed seeing all the years prior to that.

It is sort of the same thing with being loved and treated well....it is totally new to me

I am coming to understand just how poorly I've been treated in the past because I now have something good, healthy and wonderful to compare it to. I believe this has opened my eyes as well as my heart and the result is lots and lots of both sad and happy tears.

 

[Catch-22]

I have just found this after searching "crying when overwhelmed with happiness". At first I told myself its 'tears of joy', but I was filling buckets here... so clearly something more.

So, when I found this post and comments on myPTSD, it made more sense. Of course its my PTSD that has made me unable to control the tears whilst being overwhelmed with happiness, but I needed some kind of explanation of why exactly or at least hear of others that had the same experience. Some kind of explanation outside my own thoughts, something I could trust perhaps?!! wow.

Since this is my first comment on this website I am finding it a bit difficult to keep it simple. I thought I felt overwhelmed before. Ha! Now I feel good for having found this website and a place to learn from others and also to safely express the effects or what have you, of my C-PTSD.

I just wanted to thank you all for sharing the post and your comments, some of them resonate so deeply with me and have afforded me to feel...to accept this as a healing process and to have hope, that its not uncommon with PTSD, indeed, its rather a very good sign. Thank you.

Be Blessed.

 

[amarie333]

Lion, I'm the same way.

I'm brand new to this forum, I found this thread after searching for "why crying when happy." I'm so tired of crying all the time. I cry when I'm sad or scared, of course. But I also cry when good things happen. When I start feeling happy. When I feel love. When I see a cute animal or baby. When I think about the people I love. When I see or hear anything even slightly hearwarming...and, when people are nice to me. I cried when my son turned 17. I cry at commercials. It's too much. I think I'm crying when I'm happy because I know "it won't last," because I know that loved ones are always eventually lost, that nothing good ever stays.

It's like, as soon as I feel good or happy or loving, I start grieving and mourning the loss before it happens. I don't know how to stop. I've already seen a doctor and therapist repeatedly, so I've done the whole "get help" thing with little success. Tired of grieving all the time even when there's no good reason. Thanks everyone for being here and thanks Lion for this post.

 

[Tornadic Thoughts]

I cry a lot, too, and am finally okay with it. Whether I'm happy, sad, frustrated, pissed off, scared, overjoyed, and many things in between. Acts of kindness from others really gets the waterworks going ,too. It's my body's way of releasing pent up emotion, and I spent so many years fighting it, not wanting others to ever see my tears, for fear of being thought of as weak. In survival mode, weakness isn't an option. Not recognizing the different modes needed in each moment due to overwhelming fear and having no solid or healthy foundation to build upon creates a whole new level of challenges that so many face.

I have to stuff my pockets with tissues wherever I go, and there's a box in each room of our house. Laundry time is a real hoot when I forget to check my pockets. lol Even taking my morning walks along the same very safe paths surrounded by beauty I'm very familiar with, I always see/hear/touch/taste/smell something that overwhelms me and causes me to just ball like a baby. I now make time for it and welcome it with a desire to find and understand the roots instead of trying to stop it and fix it. When I'm listening to others talk, I feel their pain, too, and cry along with them, or sometimes, it seems, for them, as they're still too fearful of opening up the dam. Salt water can be very healing, via tears or the sea.

 

[Bloomy]

@Lionheart777 - this: "I am coming to understand just how poorly I've been treated in the past because I now have something good, healthy and wonderful to compare it to. I believe this has opened my eyes as well as my heart and the result is lots and lots of both sad and happy tears"

I feel you. I had some changes recently and it is really heartbreaking in a good way to feel such as one has never felt before. It hurts in good and sorrowful ways too for me two get some understanding I didnt have before.

Its actually so unusual that I feel I disociate writing about it -sorry. But its all good and I am really really happy for you Lonheart <3 You so much deserve to be loved and to feel loved and have a good life that gives you wonderul blessings <3

Glad I came back to thread again today to be remined of this

 

[Lionheart]

So nice to read everyone's replies, I still cry a lot but openly and without shame or fear of being seen as weak or feminine (no offense intended ladies), ....we men are a little prone to worrying that being emotional equates with being some how 'less of a man' when in fact it makes one more human and is not really a gender issue.

I was recently grieving the loss of a dear old friend and was bawling my heart out when it occurred to me that I truly believe the conscious soul continues to exist and then suddenly the pain stopped and it seemed to me as if my friend had his arm around my shoulder hugging me and smiling. I haven't shed a tear since.

Still I will cry when watching old episodes of "friends"...I am just a sensitive person and no longer worry about it so much. The great thing is that I've realized that I usually don't cry happy tears unless I am really moved by something emotionally and that it is ok to be emotional and to cry whether from happiness or sorrow or a combo of both.