He Doesn't Remember

[sun seeker]

I doubt they are happy. Why do you say they are happy?

If you read the post again, you'll see she didn't say that, she said he is happy. Someone capable of doing something like that... well... their feelings are hard to fathom. He might well be happy, but it's not the same kind of happiness most of us would recognize as such.

 

[Powder]

I'm for reporting and hoping that if anything did happen to his new family, there would already be a report to back it up. Before the report, I'd move and make it impossibly hard to find me.

If he is friendly with local law enforcement, then FBI reporting online is important. FBI is interested in stepping in to investigate when criminals have too much power over local LE.

Most likely, if this guy knew how to waterboard, then he is "experienced." There may be a paper trail already in place.

 

[Friday]

I have a rule in life: Never tempt dear ones to lie.

Ironically... It also goes for asshats, pricks, & psychopaths. Just in a far more extreme way: There's zero point in talking to them. Because what they have to say doesn't mean anything. What impetus to they have to tell me the truth? They have zero reason to be honest and forthright with me, and every reason to lie. Simply opening my mouth to talk with them tempts them to lie.

Let's break this down, yeah? You asked someone you know tortured you if they tortured you? (Or why, etc., same thing really). Why would you believe them? What did you hope to gain?

 

[Casey_03]

@FridayJones Does it say anywhere in my post that I asked him if he tortured me? Pretty sure it doesn't, and I in now way implied that I said, "Hey, do you remember torturing me?" I suppose I should have included more context, which is this: I contacted him in the hopes of getting money that he still owes me for hospital bills. I didn't contact him with the hopes of closure or to confront him. But the issue came up because I explained that I need the money now more than ever for therapy. He asked why I was in therapy. That is the context of the conversation. I appreciate the feedback from everyone, but the condescension in some responses is really unnecessary.

 

[joeylittle]

I suppose I should have included more context

In this case, I think that's all that happened; your first post had a great deal of pain in it, posters reached out with all the forms of support that happen here - validation, kindness, tough love, possible solutions - but they all (myself included) filled in their own blanks. It happens.

As far as this guy goes, I doubt he is telling you the truth - especially if he is equally aware of this:

money that he still owes me for hospital bills.

Which seems to be the case.

Do you have any legal recourse? I've absolutely no idea how this works in Russia, I'm guessing its very difficult. Is there a way of just having bills sent directly to him? Might not work for someone you see regularly, and its a dirty trick, but sometimes you do what you need to do...I'm sure you would rather never have to talk to him again.