Anthony I Am Reading Your Posts Wrong....

[Kintsugi]

get stuck into their healing, work through the pain of it all, and recover to live a better life.

But @anthony, I don't wanna...
:bag::whistling:;)

 

[anthony]

I need a big boot smilie... instead of responding, I could just post a line full of those! :D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D:D

 

[NarcSis]

Ha,ha, I'm a little behind here but my two cents is that Anthony values honesty - honesty with yourself in confronting your defense mechanisms in healing, he won't suffer BS and he'll call it if he sees it. It can come across as harsh but that's the nature of truth, it's not sugar coated.

We have to understand that we are looking at the world from wounded eyes and wounded eyes seek out potential attacks - we will interpret a lot of information as attack.

So hugs to you if this is how you've felt, you're not alone in it but the greatest lesson here is that you're becoming aware of how you're seeing the world and working to change it. Yay, that's called healing!

 

[shimmerz]

Link Removed, honestly, don't panic or feel any need to apologise to me for things here.

I am not panicked, so that is good. I just find it interesting that it is happening. It is not usually in my nature. Or maybe it is and I am just seeing it. I am stumped. I thank you for the reassurance. I know you tried to get something across to me in a posting a while ago and I just spun around in circles. :confused: Apparently I can't figure out worth a crap where to post stuff either - :banghead::banghead: Seems like a simple thing to do. Somehow I just can't seem to get it right.

is to get stuck into their healing, work through the pain of it all, and recover to live a better life.

That's why I posted this. I will mull it over and see what comes of it. Thanks Anthony, and all involved in this thread.

 

[anthony]

Apparently I can't figure out worth a crap where to post stuff either

Well... staff are here to solve that issue for members, when in doubt. Members can be in all sorts of moods when posting, and that is what staff are around for, to correct things from a different view.

It's much easier than you may think though. Your first choice is whether your thread is Not PTSD (social), Is PTSD (PTSD Category - based around symptoms) or Is Trauma specific (Trauma Category - not about symptoms).

That is the first question you ask yourself. Get that right, you have it narrowed to the right category of forums.

It often gets easier then... because you only have to look at that symptoms you want to discuss, or specific subject of trauma you're discussing, and anything not PTSD or trauma related, nothing to do with them, goes into social. Obviously help is help, and goes into that forum.

People think too hard about it... it is a hierarchy tree, you just follow it downwards.

 

[Pencil]

Maybe someone could give me some ideas. You have done absolutely nothing wrong, you are patient beyond words with me. I don't get it. I thought maybe if I threw it out there it would help me sort it out.

Anthony's language is what does it in your particular case, perhaps. Syntactically his sentences are quite dense. I haven't analyzed yet, but I think I will; in the mean time, though, look at his posts objectively - he tends to pack more into one sentence than is the norm, and leaves out anything extraneous that might make the text smoother. Very economical. (In case I sound loony, I'm a linguist.)

 

[anthony]

leaves out anything extraneous

Yup. If I can say it in 10 words, instead of 100, I will.

 

[PlainJane]

Hmm. I find myself at the opposite end of the spectrum. I tend to be more attracted to people like Anthony, people that tell it like it is. I develop more respect for them. For some reason I don't find it intimidating or nerve racking. If someone is being nice or sweet talking, then I'm cautious, almost paranoid at their "angle." Maybe that's just differences in experiences with different kinds of people?

I find that I'm more worried about others perceiving what I say incorrectly or not how I intended it. I usually find excuses for people that say things to me that I SHOULD be offended by. Not really sure what that's about either.

 

[rightkindofme]

I've had a hard time adjusting to Anthony's style as well. Not because there is anything wrong with it, but because I view men in authority responding with vigor as hostility. That doesn't mean that Anthony is feeling hostility.

Feelings! All these darn feelings.