Would You Hurt/kill Your Abusers?

[Anoj]

"Abuser" is a general term. If you were the victim of a bombing or another violent act, that is a good parallel to abuser.

Would you actually, really, truly want your abusers dead or seriously injured if you could make it happen? If you could just wave some kind of wand and make it happen without personally getting involved, would you actually want that?

I go through phases. Ultimately these days I do not want a hand in the death of my abusers (even if indirect--see "wand" above). Maimed... maybe.

I wanted to know how others felt.

 

[Haban]

Imagining it is one thing. Doing is another. Forgive yourself for thoughts, the difference between you and them is you don't act on it.

 

[Ojuz]

Yes, I did in the past when I was badly traumatized but now I don't care if they live or die because they are not important. What's is more important is my life and how I am going to survive and live peacefully.

 

[Uhibum]

No.

 

[Omez]

I swing back and forth on this thought.

For me it wasn't abuse, but someone who made a careless choice. Of the 6 people who were in the path of that fool, I am the only survivor. I also don't know what punishment if any, he faced for his actions.

Do I want him dead? No, I don't think so.
Why should he be granted the mercy withheld from me?
Why should he be allowed to die. To make his swath of destruction on the world, and leave me in the hell of my own mind?
f*ck him. Why did I live? That's what I really want to know.

 

[Nolom]

Yes I would torture them psychologically and then physically to end their lives.

 

[Edil]

Would you actually, really, truly want your abusers dead or seriously injured if you could make it happen? If you could just wave some kind of wand and make it happen without personally getting involved, would you actually want that?

No..I wouldn't want them to die..that's too easy. I would just want to do to them what they did to me. f*ck them up too. Shatter their soul. I would be their worst nightmare..they would never sleep again.

It may not change the past or take away the pain, but it would level the score. Because that's the thing about trauma, survivors are always cheated. The abuser gets to walk away and the victim gets to pick up the pieces..never to be the same again.

I wouldn't kill them, I would just steal what they stole from me..and find comfort in their pain..

 

[Ijo]

There was a time I wished that I could be capable of it. Even if I had a free pass without fear of any repercussions I I know i would freeze up and wouldn't be able to follow through with it.

That doesn't stop me from wishing karma on him despite my lack of belief in karma.

 

[Wibij]

No I wouldn't want to hurt another person in any way. I don't even believe in the death penalty for even the worst crimes because in that way it is an easy way out of the guilt and horror of a life living with it in prison.

 

[Mocifi]

I can't, so I try to to not dwell on it.

The short answer? Yes. There's no moral dilemmas about it. The inability to act without ending as the punished party, again, is what hurts. Hence not dwelling it is.

 

[Ogum]

If I haven't already, it's highly unlikely that I would.

 

[Jofih]

How would we feel though, if someone else too it out of our hands and into theirs? Would we feel the need to stop them? Would we feel thankful?