Goodbye!

[Sandstone]

It's probably time to move on now. Maybe find a lesson for yourself, and then go and offer some support to someone else.
What do think you can learn from all this to take forward in your life?

I do feel the need to say that I've I've gained a great deal from the knowledge, insight and generosity of @Chava.

 

[Ed Norton]

This is a pretty easy forum, on my other one we are harsh. I never saw people there complain much of 'thread hijacking'. The topics change because it's a dialogue. One topic leads into another. I wouldn't worry a lot about it.

 

[Rumors]

@lostforgottensoul I don't agree that Chava didn't apologize or try and resolve this matter.
Chava said:

@lostforgottensoul sorry you're feeling beat up on. Nobody intended that. I saw that post as becoming a one-sided thread and you do have a lot to share (I understand that). I should have just left it at asking about creating a new post more specific to your connections, and a way to further explore the RAD or complex trauma and sex-only connection (which is not probably so uncommon). You would get MORE responses that way, vs it carry on as a conversation between only a couple posters. But it's really not a big deal and there aren't rules. And it's been hinted at that I shouldn't make suggestions. :meh:Hgpfph. There are lots of people who care and willing to share here...I also like how @Ms Spock has reached out to you here to relate and try to share perspective.

Sorry you're so upset. I hope you'll keep posting! I saw you responded again in that thread but I just got back from a few hours of work...will check back later."

This was post number 33 from Chava. Block her if you will, however I hope you will read back through and decide differently. I'm sorry I can't agree with how this came down and I can clearly see you are triggered right now. I hope it is something that works out for you and you are able to work through. I, too, bow out of the conversation because it is not my intent to make you feel like you are being attacked just merely trying to point out that there is much to be learned from conversations like this if you are willing to really get in to it. Tough day. Sorry you have felt badly about how this all came down. Hope you stick around and see it through! Best wishes.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

@lostforgottensoul I don't agree that Chava didn't apologize or try and resolve this m...

Yes, i see that she did and thank you for pointing that out to me. So many responses and messages were coming at me and i felt as though i was being 'told' to not post in that thread. I did read the first part of that but stopped before the middle part; so i stand corrected and appologize myself.

After i woke up and read what i did from Chava this morning then to become re-triggered so fast which isnt normal for my anxiety to go from 0 to 100 that fast, i think its best to just keep chava blocked for now until it can calm down in my head. I do feel chava has had a lot to offer in the past and as i said before, i dont want to block anyone as i feel everyone's voice should be heard; but for now i still feel its best until i can feel safer and calmer on here.

Thank you for pointing that out!

 

[ladee]

Being a newbie to the Forums, this exchange has been very enlightening for me. I see that people can have their feelings,, share them, but am also seeing you own your part , as others did.... I am happy you are staying. I recently got my feelings hurt and posted. I didn't like all the replies I got, but took what I needed.. I owned it from the start...Some days that is all we can do , own it. Wishing you strength and courage to work to the other side.... it was a great lesson for me. Don't know if this is hijacking or not... just wanted to say I learned a lot about communication with this..... :hug:'s if you accept them

 

[lostforgottensoul]

The topics change because it's a dialogue. One topic leads into another. I wouldn't worry a lot about it.

Thank you! Exactly what i was trying to say without know the words. Ive decided not to worry about it. If people dont like me as i am than i can move on, just do t want it to come to that.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Don't know if this is hijacking or not... just wanted to say I learned a lot about communication with this..... :hug:'s if you accept them

LOL, you made me laugh. You dont ever have to worry about being accused of "hijacking" one of my threads. I communicate as replies come in and if that takes the thread off base, so be it as i feel that i learn and grow from every conversarion here; and people were commenting that they were learning stuff so i didnt see that as a big deal. And what i still dont get, conversation = more than one person, i dont talk to myself well lol.

Yes hugs excepted! :hug:

 

[Deleted member 20978]

So.... I still very much do not appreciate how I was pulled into all of it (privately) and a whole bunch else, which has all been stated ad nauseum by not just me. But I have been thinking about things you said. I don't think I will engage further with you, but I wanted to let you know that.

EOM

 

[lostforgottensoul]

So.... I still very much do not appreciate how I was pulled into all of it (privately) and a whole bunch...

Ok?? Not gonna allow this to trigger me though my brain wants me to.

Have no clue what i did to you as you messaged me what you did, appologized, i accepted, end of story i thought.

But if you dont want to engage (talk) to me, thats your choice.

 

[Deleted member 20978]

I think any way of stating any of it as X "did" Y is gonna start the blame game. Which, should you care, really did a number on me and is not good for my own recovery. And no, that's a pretty abridged story but I'm done playing.

I think about what *I've* done, which is *my* job as part of *my* recovery and general desire to be a decent human being. It's hard to own things when the other person is determined to take everything in bad faith.

Disengaging is not an act of malice. It's self-protection coupled with valuing my time.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I think any way of stating any of it as X "did" Y is gonna start the blame game. Which, should you care,...

In my opinion this issue, who ever doing what ever, is over...so i have no idea why, beyond this issue, you decide that never talking to me is what you need to do for your recovery but again, your choice.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Practicing @joeylittle's interupting auto thinking patterns that cause triggers. Arent you proud of me @joeylittle that im at least able to try to interupt it? My anxiety has gone up but not like super high like yesterday and i think keeping my mind on fixing this customer's internet is helping but im still trying and able to a little bit.