Mother

[Chava]

Sounds all very weird and enmeshed in unhealthy ways. Instead of 911 I'd have the police # on hand, or patrol, or whatever makes sense where you are. Just a thought. I think of 911 as more medical or physical threat emergencies...don't tie them up. But yes, hold your boundaries and call the cops if you feel it is needed.

Working on a model plane sounds awesome! (I would definitely just glue my fingers together on accident :wacky: but admire people who can do that detailed work)

 

[Bookoffee]

Instead of 911 I'd have the police # on hand, or patrol, or whatever makes sense where you are. Just a thought. I think of 911 as more medical or physical threat emergencies...don't tie them up. But yes, hold your boundaries and call the cops if you feel it is needed

Great point. Thank you

 

[scout86]

I'll be hoping you have a nice, quiet day, but mentally standing in your corner, no matter what!

 

[Stickler]

Hope that there was no more family drama today.

:hug:

 

[Bookoffee]

No family drama today. First time in a very long time that I was able to sleep. I actually slept the entire day.

 

[Bookoffee]

Received a text from sister of a picture of her youngest granddaughter. Telling me her name, age, DOB and she would like to meet me.

They have always done this to me. Here be a part of my life, then the, if you do this or don't do this then you are not allowed to be around the children.

It kills me.

 

[Milo's papa]

Brookoffee, disregard my previous post. I didn't have time to read through all the other posts and responses.

 

[scout86]

They have always done this to me.

I'm glad you have them figured out. Sorry you didn't get a better family!

 

[stillstanding2]

For you, do you imagine some sort of healing in opening these wounds?

Good question. I'm curious how old and how healthy your mother is. If she's sensing her mortality, she could be hoping to make some too-late amends. Or she might just make excuses, which could compound your disappointment. Just take care of yourself. Her guilt is her problem.

 

[Bookoffee]

I am going to see if I can remember the events. I have damage to a disc and nerve root with a tear between L5S1. While I have been on the waitlist to see a surgeon, my symptoms are starting to get worse. I now have a shooting pain down both legs, numbness, nausea, it has moved more up in the back area (Mid to lower ribs) I spent most of my time last week sleeping on pain meds. I finally called to explain how bad the pain was becoming. They called my medical insurance to see if a physical therapist could do the evaluation for him and he would sign off on it. This has increase concern all around that everyone authorized the visit for this Tuesday. Is there some holiday on Monday?

I had a panic attack midweek and exchanged quick check-in messages with brother. The next day or after, my sister calls while I was sleeping. Then left me a text message saying how unbelievable I am being, she wont bother me again so I can continue to play victim. I am the reason I am the way I am not them.

A week prior she did send me a picture of her newest granddaughter. Stating her name and who her mother is, when her birth day will be and old and telling me how she wants to met me. I hate when children are used like that. I was so taken aback that I couldn't respond. I couldn't stop looking at her picture though.

I became so enraged. I felt as though they were coming barging into my life without allowing me to gather my grounding. I have been very open and clear about where my mindset is, as best I can.

I wasn't going to allow them to control my life and be pushy towards me and make demands.

Waking up from my nap an reading this, I responded without thinking.

I asked WTF? Calm Down! I can't control my pain level and need surgery on my spine. This is a reason I keep at arm lengths. We had one five minute phone call, a text of her granddaughter and two missed calls within the past two to three weeks and absolutely no contact for three years prior. I don't want to deal with the blow ups bullshit so yes, please stay away!

She responded "I'm away tried of being hurt by you"


I am drained. I am trying so hard not to take on the confusion, shame and blame

 

[Bookoffee]

I couldn't sleep. had nightmares. I am thinking I may have over reacted. My head is pounding and I am completely confused

 

[The Albatross]

"Calm Down! I can't control my pain level and need surgery on my spine. This is a reason I keep at arm lengths. We had one five minute phone call, a text of her granddaughter and two missed calls within the past two to three weeks and absolutely no contact for three years prior. I don't want to deal with the blow ups bullshit so yes, please stay away!"

A bit terse, blunt, and maybe the last sentence could have been a bit more refined and toned down.... but hey, I don't think you overreacted at all.

Sure you could say, in retrospect all is true and correct except it is more accurate to say that I do not have the ability at this time to deal well with nuanced communications and they are confusing to me so please tone them down or resist the urge to become over involved in my situation for mutual benefit.... or something like that?