Hopelessness

[AngelBby]

so my therapist asked me what's my definition of hopelessness and I said when I'm drowning, everyone is telling me to swim, but I can't swim. What is your definition ?

 

[Friday]

I don't believe in shit that hasn't happened, yet.

 

[Ronin]

Hopelessness is when I underestimate myself and forget I'm more kickass than whatever the bullshit I'm dealing with at the moment is.

 

[Heather]

Hopelessness is what my daughter is swimming in right now......That nothing will ever change, things will never get better and she's gonna feel miserable for the rest of her life.

I'm trying desperately to keep her head above the water.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Well, since hopelessness is a common theme in my life, it depends on why im feeling it but generally its when i feel that 'they' have won, my brain can never be changed, i can never take back control over it, and im tired...very very tired of fighting it & dont want to fight another day, hour, or minute...im done.

Now this is making me depressed....

 

[Heather]

Hopelessness is when I underestimate myself and forget I'm more kickass than whatever the bullshit I'm dealing with at the moment is.

I think this is beautifully said:ninja:

 

[Ronin]

i can never take back control over it

If I may, Lost?
It's your brain. You own it, you /always/ have control over it.
How good that transfers to action may be another thing to so many factors, but that ownership grants intrinsic control, just because it's you and yours.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

@Cashew

Of course you may.

I wanna fight that thought but my rational side knows thats true, though controling it is another story. Its all automatic and i think taking back the controls is coming up because its BEGINNING TO REALLY f*ckING PISS ME OFF! My therapist says thats good, anger directed correctly is good, motivating. But i can say, its f*cking exhausting. To fight an automatic brain. I faught it til 7am a week ago last Thurs w/ my friend from the other site. Its just f*cking exhausting!

I guess i can say there has been one victory. The ritual that i made public here hasnt been done since i posted about it. So thats good i guess.

 

[Nighthawk]

That my life and existance are hell. Whats the point of caring on. Nothing will get better but things will get far worse. That there is not enough of anything to make me have a better out look in any direction.

 

[Recovery4Me]

For myself, I view hopelessness as a cognitive distortion. I found it may fall within these categories for me.

*Over-generalization -- my viewing a single negative event as a relentless pattern of defeat.

-or-

*Mental filter -- my selecting one negative detail to the point of rumination thus promoting my filter to believe all reality has becomed darkened, like the drop of ink that colors the entire beaker of water.

https://www.myptsd.com/threads/10-p...s-negative-thinking-styles.51948/#post-828573

Borrowed and paraphrased from our cognitive distortion threads

 

[Deleted member 29920]

Hopelessness is for me, feeling trapped, unable to move, unable to get the key, unlock the door and run away for good. Hopelessness is never being able to escape my abusers, that they'll find me no matter where I go on this planet.

It's just being stuck like this until I die.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Feeling that I'll be trapped inside myself forever, forever f*cked up, and everyone hates me anyway (especially family) so why fight anymore? I fight constantly so hard and im just tired, so very tired......