Ptsd Sufferer - Thinking Of Leaving My Husband

[GFG]

Hi, I know it's been a while since there was a post. I was googling PTSD, which I do every once in a while and I came upon your thread. Unfortunately, your life is or was more common than not when one person in the relationship has PTSD. I'm married to a Marine with PTSD and TBI, we've been married for almost four years. So I KNOW how difficult and confusing it is.

 

[sandra1028]

Well, I understand you completely. I'm in a similar situation right now. What I need is a place to move into with my 7 - year old because he's getting worse. My daughter is getting older and she doesn't need to see what she sees or hear what she hears. I want to leave but have no where to go. I had a house to move into so my daughter won't miss her room, etc. I don't want to interrupt her happiness. Are there any resources for wives of these vets with PTSD individuals? I've been told to go to a shelter with my daughter. When I do leave, my husband is going to lose our beautiful home, he's gonna really get stressed out worrying about me and my daughter, and he might even have his mom admit him into VA hospital again. I'm not feeling sorry for him this time. I'm gonna change my tele#. I'm done. He needs a caregiver. I'm not the one anymore. I need serious financial help so I can move!

 

[sandra1028]

You carried yourself appropriately. I wish my husband would leave. Instead, out of no where, he moves all of my belongings out of our bedroom and into another bedroom. All of my clothes out of the dresser, all of my clothes in the closet removed and placed in another room. Then he says he wants me and my 7 - year old daughter out. We moved into this new construction home 8 months ago and there hasn't been ONE week that has gone by where he hasn't told me "You can get the 'f' out! This is my house 'b' - I didn't stutter!" He's a real tough guy when talking to me, but he's a real 'b' when it comes to him and another man. I remain silent and try my best with all my might to hold my tongue. My 7 - year old daughter is listening and watching. He has no clue what he's teaching our child by acting this way. I'm just trying to leave before she has to witness anymore of his crazy ways. I've had enough. I'm a happy-go-lucky person and I don't drink or do drugs, and I'll be damned if I let someone like him drive me in the wrong direction. He's a nut. He doesn't look like a nut so I feel SORRY for the next innocent victim that he catches in his web. I'm about to take these shackles off my feet and dance. Me and my daughter. We're about to start living. Thank God!

 

[anthony]

We're about to start living.

That sounds like the best decision you could make based on what you've written. Well done... and don't second guess yourself. Get the hell out and don't go back for any tactics he pulls after the fact.