Administrative Discharge For Not Enough Progress?

[Chava]

Thanks @void ! :hug:
And thank you so much for standing up for me @Changeling . Probably thanks to my own recovery I have too much self respect to play games here. I also could never afford membership because I had to even cut my university teaching in half because of my pain. So I work with 3-5 different non-profits in any given month trying to help kids find expressive outlets (first we are sure they are in therapy if they have a diagnosis or are within foster care system). That's all I'll say because I keep my work out of this. But helps fill the void and I have a lot of passion for the global harm done to young minds and spirits through trauma. Anyway, I'm not one to tip toe very well around anyone because I ran away from that when I was a teen. Wahoo!

Back at @theshadowoftheliving ...nevermind all that above and sorry this got pulled a bit off track (weird side scenario, got blocked out of my own thread). But back to you...I wanted to chime in because I know you've struggled getting in and out of therapy and I just hope so much you can find the right therapist. This person just doesn't sound qualified. I was still establishing basic trust within the first whole year, as many of us probably do. And who the f*ck cures dissociation in 6 months? I agree with @KwanYingirl 's advice if you are so bothered by the injustice of this shitty care. But mostly I hope you find a qualified therapist. This one simply wasn't and it's heartbreaking.

Alright, take care!!

 

[void]

I'm devastated. My therapist is dropping me for not making enough progress. For continuing...

We are all on your side...we are... for... you.
Did the funding end?:confused:

Idk, this is shocking...no solid T. would do this.

I've been at this SH*T for a long ass time and I still diss. EVERY session.......your T. is WRONG.....full stop!

Maybe this is a blessing in disguise and you'll find a much better T.:hug:

 

[void]

Thanks @void ! :hug:

Your welcome @Chava !

I hope you come back at some point...but you'll do what is best for you.
You are lovely....may you find deep peace.:hug:

 

[Neverthesame]

Total crap.

People don't come with best before dates, sell by dates, or any other pre-determined amount of time for a reasonable expectation of therapeutic process.

Things that are reasonable to expect from people, within a time frame are developmental. Walking, talking, toilet training, reading, writing, etc, ect.

The situations in life that require the use of these developmental skills, are likely to be experienced by just about every person everywhere ever. Been this way for hundreds of thousands of years.

Situations in life involving trauma, are nowhere near the same thing. Most people won't experience a trauma, fewer still develop a disorder as a result of said trauma. Most will experience some manifestation of post traumatic stress, then naturally get over it in a few weeks. It becomes a valuable lesson learned, albeit an unpleasant one. It's a healthy behaviour, designed to teach you how to stay alive.

Anyways.... Here I am blabbering on about something everybody already knows.

My point being. Trauma therapy is akin to telling your self preservation instinct to not be sounding the internal alarm when staring down a charging elephant. While the situation no longer warrants it, the intensity is the same. Therapy is a counter intuitive response to a perceived threat.

The longer the mental repetition of "Danger, danger, danger, danger, you are in danger" has to reinforce itself into your mind, the longer and harder therapy will be. As far as I am aware, this is about the only gauge for this sort of thing, and is still extremely vague.

I'm sorry your therapist did this to you. It's very unprofessional and disrespectful to you. Your lack of progress is in no way your fault. Therapy is hard, and cannot be rushed. Putting time constraints on your recovery (unrealistic ones at that) is irresponsible and disrespectful to you.

I can tell you what I'd do, were I in your shoes. I'd go in for my last appointment, politely go in the office, sit down, take a deep breath and say. "You're fired."

Then calmly stand up and walk out, never to return.

 

[Brenton]

I'm devastated. My therapist is dropping me for not making enough progress. For continuing...

Dont let it crush you, you didn't do anything wrong. Find another T.
I've been with mine for almost 2 years because I'm that traumatized, and it takes time. A therapist knows when someone isn't trying and when someone needs time, so find someone compassionate, who wont make you feel rushed to get to a finishline.
I'm really sorry you're going thru this. I'd be hurt if my T did it to me. Just dont hurt yourself over it,there's a bazillion therapists in the world and you can find the right one.

 

[void]

I'm devastated. My therapist is dropping me for not making enough progress. For continuing...

@theshadowoftheliving

When you get a new T. you may want to tell the new T what your previous T did.....and here's why.

You will probably fear that your new T will do the same thing as the Asshole T. just did to you.

BUT if you tell the new T right from the start it may ease that fear.

Take care.:hug:

 

[Panda Bear]

I'm very confused here....did you enter into therapy with this particular T knowing that a time frame was present? For example, is this a free/low cost option where wait list exist or the like? Where a certain time frame might be adhered too?

I don't mean to make this matter light, because it's quit the opposite!! 6m to make a certain amount of progress seems odd to me(unless it was outlined prior) I've been with my therapist for 4yrs and didn't even learn to trust him till well after 2yrs into our time together. Heck, I still have periods of dissisociation, I lost the whole month of February!! And I'm actually doing well in my PTSD work.

So, I'm wondering why...why the sudden drop from her case load. Go to that final mtg and ask! Aside from the fact that proper termination should take weeks, up to a few months. That is unless some sort of contractual agreement was broken.
My T told me termination(when we're ready) will account for approximately 10% of our total time together.

I'm very sorry this is happening....

 

[EveHarrington]

Is she a trauma therapist? Is she trained in treating dissociation?

I'm SO sorry this happened to you. Sometimes it takes a long time before others can see our progress.

 

[GardenGirl0214]

That is so very unethical, and I'd report her. Don't let her unprofessional behavior stop you from finding a much more qualified and compassionate therapist. You are worth it!

 

[anonymous]

Gosh, that sounds terribly difficult.

Just checking all options to be sure of what happened:
Is it through a charity or treatment program that is time limited? That has happened to me before (15 sessions and I was out on the street just after I had opened up some trauma). If they feel the person isn't in a place to engage with treatment they can stop it.
Were you working with her/trying and showing up for therapy? Did she have discussions about this before?
Is she a trauma therapist and experienced dealing with complex trauma?
Is she a CBT therapist that usually works in a time limited way?
Was there any situation that involved conflict between you where she felt you overstepped your boundaries?

I think there can be legitimate times when something like this would happen. For example when the person is in a cycle of self destruct and isn't engaging with therapy or trying at all. A t can use this as a shock tactic to try to jolt the person into engaging with therapy. If you were trying then I greatly suspect she is one of those rigid time limited CBT therapists (that I hate). The type I will never see again. Straight forward one event PTSD is also often supposedly treated by a short course of trauma focused CBT so it may be she is only used to that. :rolleyes:

Can you work on finding someone else now? Maybe delay the last session so that you feel you have some security of sorts. Then you can decide whether to go or not. This will be about how she sees therapy and not just about you so try to hang onto that.

 

[anonymous]

I just read your dissociation thread. Could it be that she is stopping because she feels she doesn't have the knowledge or skill to deal with your level of dissociation rather than because you have done something wrong and haven't changed enough? In other words she feels you need different help to the help she can provide?

 

[katz]

Please don't blame yourself! You are not at fault!
I went thru a similar experience. I was in a group that was thru a battered womans clinic. When the group finished, they told me that they could not help me and just sent me on my way.
It hurt so much to be abandoned again. So, I understand what would make you want to blame yourself. Don't. You are not to blame. Hugs to you. ()