What do you think about the phrase 'trauma doesn't define you"?

I could say this about this statement. I had trauma recovery therapy domestic violence treatment help understanding family systems theory . I had help with spiritual trauma recovery. These concepts help me grasp with reality. I will never see things or people the way I did before 2014..I got to the point where I forgave my first deceased husband. My parents. Not there. Other family members not there..My trauma is in my brain and nervous system. Since I experienced cardiopulmonary arrest I am grateful that I had the strength to get help from many good doctors and therapists . My first husband said about 6 months before his death I want to live to walk the green grass again. My marriage to this man pushing myself beyond my limits etc caused a severe illness. I am the one who lived to walk the green grass again..
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Movingforward10 said:

Lots of people say "trauma doesn't define you".

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Probably because they haven't really suffered trauma, beyond stubbing their big toe and calling it such, trying to woke identify and empathise with real trauma sufferers.

This ^

I think the goal of my therapy is to get to a point where I don’t feel like it defines me. Where stuff that used to send me reeling for months doesn’t even register. Where the things that happened were just things that happened and don’t register as traumatic. (Using the definition that trauma is the reaction not the event, because it’s still abuse.)

In the kind of therapy I’m doing I learned this is called sublimation. I think. She explained it once but I forgot.

Survivor3 said:

Trauma definitely defined me when I was really unwell.

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Agree. Anyone who says it doesn't has not suffered real trauma.

My T was talking about that a while ago like I was afraid to let go of trauma. I said it's all I have known the last 50 years and to walk away going la, la , la, i had therapy I'm cured would be disastrous.

There seem to be aspects you can rise above but for the kind of trauma that makes psychiatrists and psychologists all ask me "How are you still alive?" You can't leave it alone or you won't be alive.....