Feeling like i lost my chance at life

Survivor3 said:

Your 23 years old. Barely out of your teens! And you think your too old to achieve your goals, so your not bothered about anything?? That's just really negative . Can I ask why you have come onto this site, and what you want to get out of it? Do you suffer from trauma/ptsd?

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Movingforward10 said:

I think there is an article on this sight about thought stopping and/or cognitive distortions.

Have you tried thought stopping?

It sounds like you have some beliefs ("everyone is doing better than me", "I should be ahead of where I am", "I am too old to sort this now") that are limiting you. Those thoughts aren't true, but they feel true. And you find confirmation of them in interactions which confirms to you that they are true.
The thing about cognitive distortions is that we can always find proof they are true when we are focused on looking for that proof.
But....thought stopping, counter messages, with a lot of practice, help to change it around.

Because it's not true.
Are there people your age that emotionally and socially and financially more sorted then you? Well of course!
Are there people your age that are emotional and socially and financially less sorted than you? Well of course!

Maybe the question is, why are you comparing yourself to others?
Working on building your sense of self and self worth will help to stop you comparing yourself to others.

It really really is doable.
But it takes work and commitment.
And, very annoyingly, healing is not linear. You will have easier and harder times, and relapse back a bit and then go forward again. But stick with it.

What was the of the goals you set yourself that you would like to pick up again?

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mimi000 said:

Tbh I do have goals but I just feel like I'm too broken and "old" to achieve them. I feel so much fomo all the time and like I'm running out of time. So I don't even bother trying at all

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