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I read novels, and watch movies and TV shows on Hulu and Netflix. Escape into someone else's story is good. Sometimes I hang out with my husband. I love my garden. I like my work. I was exercising regularly but have gotten away from it. Slowly getting back to it. And I have friends I enjoy...

So CylentC, what are you saying? Are they words of support, or suggestions that she might interpret as pressure or, as you say, manipulation? Is your tone neutral, or does your frustration come out in your tone? Are you saying things you've said many times before?

Take deep breaths. Take a step back, emotionally. Maybe she will want to be with you, but giving her space is what you need to do right now. What you described, a little positive contact now and then but no pushing, is the right thing to do. Your support will not fix her, however. If she...

SarahLee, you don't need this manipulative jerk in your life. DO NOT RESPOND IF HE CONTACTS YOU. Block his calls and texts. Move on. Please.

Welcome Michael. What is it you would like from relationships with other people? Friendship? Support? People you can trust? Romantic relationship(s)? Folks to just hang out and socialize with?

I think that not-sleep not-awake state is where you go during hypnosis. And my hypnotherapist tells me that when she works with people who have unresolved trauma, they only stay in that state a VERY short time, and never with their eyes closed. For exactly the reason you describe: it can be a...

Tifanee, since when have you been dating my bf? Actually, he's not quite as bad as that when we're face to face, but if we're not together, he somehow decides that I am evil and malicious and don't care about him and avoid his calls and have done him serious wrong. After the fact, like your...

Knak, I'm so sorry you've had such a tough time. I hope you've found some insights and validation here. Eloise, a few things to add. First, what is positive in your relationship? Why would you want him in your life? Why does he want to be in your life? I hope that you will add that topic...

Hi, how d'ya do, supporter here newish to the forum, just wanted to say that I'm following your progress and I'm cheering for you here in the bleachers.

My bf has been avoiding me, too. So make some room for me on the frustrated, angry, missing him bench. I've been having a lot of stress connected with my son's health in the past month, which also stressed out my husband, so we had some conflict. So I stayed home a couple of evenings when I...

Thanks for your concern, Martin. I try to be careful. My bf and I are not financially interdependent, and we don't live together. (I also have a husband, kid, house, job, other family, friends, etc. And yes, my husband and boyfriend know each other and know about each other.) My bf has his...

Wishing you strength.

woundedsoul, cognitive dissonance is when you are in a situation that pulls you in two opposite directions, where you hold two opposite beliefs or emotions at the same time or when your behavior (or the behavior of someone very close to you) is in conflict with your feelings or values. This is...

I wish you strength as you make this new start. You are doing the right thing for yourself and for your son.

Supporter here, my bf has nightmares and rarely has a good night's sleep. I have been reading around about nightmare therapies. One that came up in a thread in this folder is called Critical Incident Debriefing (where you essentially rewrite a recurring nightmare to have a better ending...

Supporter here, my bf has nightmares too, he can't sleep the night through. Muse, it sounds like you're sort of trying lucid dreaming, but maybe not with much success. Anyone try lucid dreaming? Anyone have success with it? (I suppose I should start a thread about it.)

Don't pursue a friendship with her. It will just give her false hopes.

Left out a vast reservoir of patience. Be patient. She will talk to you when she's ready. Take deep breaths. Be calm. Another thing is, this is a pretty new relationship. Maybe you feel a bit insecure. That's fine. Ask for what you need from her, within reason, within the scope of what...

Thanks JohnJohn. I wouldn't say I expect nothing in return. I do get affection and appreciation from my bf. I notice the little things, and value them. But I do my best to appreciate what I have in the present moment and not expect change, not push too hard for change, and keep in mind...

That's a key fact to keep in mind. But you didn't give up. One of the symptoms of ptsd can be hopelessness and a feeling of powerlessness. So while getting better takes persistence to find what works, if a sufferer tries something and it doesn't work, the little voice in the back of his or...

Go slow. Have you talked with your therapist about your fears of falling completely apart without having a way to put yourself back together? CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) can help you develop strategies you can use in the moment when you're feeling overwhelmed. Seconding looking at...

Yes, a therapist, to help you unpack your past -- but try to find one with experience with trauma survivors.

My therapist had an observation that when you combine ptsd with abuse in childhood, there's a bit of cognitive dissonance. Twelve step programs suggest that you surrender control. PTSD healing can depend on taking control.

I don't recall what the source of your wife's trauma is, Mitch. My bf was abused as a child (emotionally and physically) and if he revealed feelings, they were generally used against him. What we talk about really depends on his state of mind. I'll ask him about more objective things (what did...

And if it's not quite the time for another horse, how about a dog? He or she would be a companion, someone to go on walks with and to talk with, and a responsibility to occupy some of your time.