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I don't have much useful to say. I have experienced strong suicidal ideation and had a part that had all the plans. It's a tough place to be in. Please keep talking to each other inside (as much as possible) and reaching out for support. It sounds like a really hard time.

So, I was the younger sibling. Some of what you described, my brother did to me. I always understood, that he was abusing me because of the abuse/etc we lived with. He did apologize to me once. He might have even be sober, after all this time, I don't remember. I do remember the apology was...

One of the things that can help for me in a bad nightmare cycle is when I wake up, I work at changing the narrative of the dreams. So, for example, I just had a nightmare about drowning. For this dream, I can kind of make it like a movie. I create a montage of me learning to swim and all the...

I wonder if for this one, you might add that they should tell you what they are going to do before they do it? The only other thing I can think of, I am not sure how to word. Basically a reminder that just because you were ok with something previously, doesn't mean you will be ok next time...

Yeah, the noise is a huge struggle for me. I did ask a doctor for a med the last time because I knew I'd struggle. The last one, I was also having sciatic issues and having to lay still in the way I needed to also became really painful. No one had really warned me about that. It was really...

I also felt the same as @Sideways and @RainbowSearchParty I really appreciate your post and responses to them. I wish more people were as thoughtful.

I have kind of come to terms with the idea that I am always going to be conflicted when it comes to my family. Currently, I've been no contact with them for a time. And a part of me still feels like that is wrong. I am trying to live with that feeling and just accept it and not dwell on it.

I'm sorry that happened. If that was me I'd be very upset.

I am sorry you are struggling so hard. Small things, can have big triggers attached. And life is sometimes very hard. Sitting with you.

So much of what is in this post resonates. I wish I'd found a conversation like this years ago. My dad also enjoyed making family uncomfortable while photos were taken. He'd secretly grope my mom, while she felt trapped, smiling for the camera.

I don't want to start therapy again. I don't want to deal with this shit. f*ck everything

I've been around the forums for a long time now and never seen a thread that focuses on this and I'm very grateful for it. I have to head off to work in a moment so don't have much time to reply but I very much relate. The thing that stays with me the most, is the things my dad said while...

you've already gotten a lot of good advice. have you ever done other things against your moral code? If so, how did you deal with those feelings after the fact? Thinking about that might help process this experience. I understand that it's very hard to talk about it. It was brave to make this...

That must feel so great. That makes me happy for you.

I'm curious as to how you are doing. We've been talking about the impacts on the person you know, which is a legitmate concern. Yet, you are posting about it in a PTSD forum. It's completely possible this has stirred up issues or triggered you. Are you ok?

The response may vary based on culture. My response, as someone from the US, was a strong "no, that's not ok." The important thing is the student felt uncomfortable and it was an adult so there's a power differential. It should be discussed with someone within the school who can respond...

This I can definitely relate to. And not wanting or connecting to my body has done me so much harm over the years. I think I'll always have to work at staying engaged with my body. Like you, the abuse started when I was so little. It's just so easy to disconnect. I've done a similar exercise...

This is incredibly wise. those are hard feelings I think your relationship can be looked at as more than a mere lesson though. I am assuming it had good times which matter even if right now the hurt is too big to feel it.

I don't tell them. The only exception was when I was having an invasive procedure and even then I didn't really say much beyond I had anxiety about the procedure. I don't know if that's the right way to proceed. I guess I learned too well to hide it.

@scout86 I am glad it was such a positive experience for you. That sounds wonderful.

Have you heard of enthusiastic consent? It has some good concepts? One of the things that silence is not consent and that you have to keep giving consent. With my husband and I, we talk during and often after. We've learned how to make it a fun part of our sexual relationship. It helps prevent...

heh, I used to tell people, "I don't have an inner child, because I always kept my child out." I'm in one my stages where I don't really believe I have DID. IF I did, it's possible I have several inner children and feel differently and communicate differently (if at all) with each of them. If I...

I'm low on words, but wanted to pop in and add that I am a fawner. I get feeling sorry for people who caused me harm. I have learned though, to have healthy boundaries. It's not my job to rescue everyone or even to make people happy.

Going back to the original question, I would probably have a mixed response. It would also depend on how well I knew the person. Because I remember how much I minimized, and did not understand my own abuse, I know that people can say something that seems normal or minor when what they really...

Feeling some of this. Also, just so overwhelmed with life, I don't have bandwidth. This is where I fall into old thought patterns. "I am just making excuses. I'm not trying hard enough. I'm lazy" blah blah blah. And then some acquaintances were talking about politics and one guy was saying how...