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This venting thread really giving me a sense of community rn <3.

Hey everyone, I hope you all are doing good. My head is a blender right now and I thought I would appreciate people's perceptions of the situation. I posted once before about my current work environment and received a lot of support. For context and summary, I had to decided to take a new role...

Hi, Just feeling the need to vent. This is my 7th therapist 8 years. I live in a context where mental health services are really undeveloped and there are no regulations in place, and it is chaos out there. The first one yelled at me for 20 mins for being late to a session, nos 2 and 5 changed...

I'm sorry you're going through this. To be honest, you could have been talking about me. It's weird, but at least in my case, in a weird way it's a sign of progress? In that, it shows that I've moved from absolutely 0 trust for anyone (1 mistake and you're out type thinking) to some sort of...

Hi y'all, I am back after a long time. It is good to see familiar screen names as well as the community wisdom. I could use advice or perspectives. I am lucky enough to have a teacher/mentor figure right now who I feel a lot of love for. This is making me go bonkers. I was able to experience...

@Anna59 im sorry i think i missed your comment! im sorry youre experiencingthis as well and i hope you find something that feels doable. @Friday just rereading your comment my friend and it is gold :). Im just the right mix of triggered enough and calm right now to be able to comprehend it and...

I found the disabiltiy services in my college very helpful. The coordinator would work with me to ask for extensions if i needed them and premailed my peofessors so they were mentally prepared for thefact that i would need extensions. They also linked with me a coach type person who would meet...

Thanks for the reply guys. Really feel like im watching myself hit rock bottom right now and feel incapable of stopping it from happening.

Hi all Having thoughts like people arent safe cant be trusted, cant go in to work and be around people tomorrow, i am not capable of defending myself, if something bad happens i will go into freeze or fawn and just be stuck in a bad situation. Dont know how to come out of this and it feels...

Thank you for taking the time to reply all <3 @triptych you're comment makes me think that it is about being disconnected to the person and maybe also a little about being disconnected with the part that is in relationship with the person? I can feel this way about some pretty close people...

I wish I knew :) This is a very lonely journey, but forums like this one, and reading the experiences of everyone here makes it more beautiful because it feels like while we're here at least we can stop pretending that shit doesnt suck or that it's easy. For myself, I like being around people...

@blackemerald1 I am pleased I did the asking :). I think even if it doesn't improve the relationship it made me feel less helpless.

Hey all, Has anyone ever experienced this feeling? I am not sure if it is a core belief or dissociation or a mix of both. Either way, definitely impacts my behaviour and makes it harder to build relationships. I am unlikely to ask about your cats surgery if my brain is screaming you're an...

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Hi both, thanks for your replies. I had to step back from the issue because it was causing me to spiral but am now in a (somewhat better) place to be able to read and take your input in. Black emerald - I have still been listening and providing support to her when she shares with me as best I...

Hi all, A very good friend I had vetted out for being "safe" and who i have known for 5 years has gradually been turning snide and mean girl-esque with me to the point that it's starting to trigger old stuff. I have set a time to speak to her about it, but the damage is done in terms of...

It's beautiful to read about everyone's inner child work. The way I have experienced it, It has been about play, and brining that energy to my adult life. There are also components of learning to reconnect with the qualities I had when I was a child, and like others have said, reparenting. Two...

I am struggling with this as well. Something that has helped me in the past is practicing mindful self compassion - there is a website called centre for mindful self compassion, if you go to the practice tab on the website they have a guided meditation especially for caregivers that was very...

Sigh how could that be when he's such a sweet considerate person and I miss him so much...? For real thou, thank you. Your reply really helped me.

That was beautiful to read eSp. Thank you for the replies everyone. I think my conclusion is that it doesn't make me feel helpless - I am here, hoping she can help, if I knew what to do, I would just do that. And that I do also read it as her not knowing how to help me and that makes me feel...

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Hey all, Just making this thread to vent. I experienced a relationship for the first time between end 2018 to beginning 2020. I was happy for some parts, but it was such an onslaught of unexpected triggers and non stop confusion. We are still in touch because he "wanted to be a constant...

@Muttly I don't know, I pick up the message that someone is upset if they withdraw. Most people don't but I really don't understand how, unless they purposely ignore it. So it makes sense to my mind. @Rab87 thank you for your very thoughtful reply. I agree, I am feeling at a loss of how to...

Hi all, We have decided to bring my dad home from the institution he is in tomorrow as he will be at risk of servere covid 19. He has a history of being abusive and my ptsd goes haywire when I'm around him. My workload has increased and I will need to be functional so I can't afford to spiral...

@Friday Thank you for the second part of your msg as well. That is definitely something I do. I think part of my response in this situation as well, but maybe not the biggest part. I think will only be able to analyse this when I am calmer.