A Question About Exposure Therapy

[Lucycat]

@BloomInWinter - when you ban somebody from a thread does it remove their posts? This thread is not making sense to me,but I suspect that bits are missing?

EDITED - ignore that question. My confusion arose as a result of a user name - change.

 

[Definitely..maybe]

@J_trustno1 I think it's very brave of you to seek alternative forms of therapy. I think some people did a good job of clarifying that you wouldn't have to do anything that would put you in danger or a bad situation. Of course it's still incredibly hard.

I think that for your traumas exposure therapy would mostly have to be indirect because of the emotional components.

I also want to add that I know it's incredibly hard to see happy people and family's sometimes. But I think it's really important to remember that you don't know what goes on behind their closed doors. Some of the most abusive family's can look like the happiest family's ever, some family's just keep it under wraps a lot better.

I always try to give those people the benefit of the doubt before I decide they have a perfect life and don't know suffering. And I'm at a place where if they really don't know suffering then I am truly happy for them. Especially the kids, I know you don't want another child to grow up and feel all the horrible feelings that you do. Even if it seems their getting such an easy life...isn't that what you will want to give your children if you have any? Imagine that maybe one of the parents was abused and just wants to be the best parent they can.

It's really hard to not hold resentment, but it will give you time to focus more on yourself and to not constantly feel put down by those that seem to have it better, easier, whatever.

 

[SeanCharles]

I kept my own trauma situations that were going on behind my parents' back while they were dealing with their own healing. In the end, I stood up to both of them (on a meeting night) and announced that I didn't want to be babysat by the two people who were supposed to caring for me as child, not as a sexual pleasure giver.(slave?)

Likewise, my mom and bio father kept the family together because my mom knew that with the 3 month job history that my bio maintained, the family would not survive. (Which I have surpassed in my own way of this current job being 5+) Eventually everything comes to a head.

Hang in there jess, you can become a strong woman given time and lots of dedicated hard work.