General A Song For All Female Carers

[Vickym]

My bf suffers from ptsd and we have been together for 11 months today I listened to this song and the words at least for me are so right and makes sense. For me after a shut out period no matter how short or long its like these words make sense. Its like he comes back from that place in his mind and sees me all over again and sees that im still here and care! Let me know what you think you can google it. Its called Fall for you by Secondhand Serenade!

 

[blue_eyed_angel]

Vickym:

I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS SONG!!!!! It is one of my favorites. And I agree with you 100% about the words making sense. Kudos :) It's great!!!

 

[DLadi]

Vickym- It's perfect! I've listened to it three times already and I love it! Thanks for sharing! D

 

[goingonhope]

Hi Vickym, I listened to it about ten times to successfully type the lyrics correctly and only to find out afterward when I googled it bc a couple words I just couldn't hear to get right, I find the lyrics already type written.

Heck' apparently it's easier to take more seriously and try the good suggestions of others prior to my best thinking. So, I learned a little more here from your thread, then I ever intended to.

I will say, I just loved listening. What a beautiful song!

Since I don't want to simply toss out my efforts, I'll post it here.

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Fall for you by Secondhand Serenade!

The best thing about tonight is that we're not fighting.
Could it be that we have been this way before.
I know you don't think that I am trying.
I know you're wearing thin down to the core.

But hold your breath, because tonight will be the night that I will fall for you, ....Over Again. ...Don't make me change my mind or I won't live to see another day, I swear it's true, because a girl like you is impossible to find.

......You're impossible to find.

This is not what I intended.
I always swore to you I'd never fall apart.
You always thought that I was stronger.
I may have failed but I have loved you from the start.

Oh, .......But hold your breath, because tonight will be the night that I will fall for you, ...Over Again. Don't make me change my mind or I won't live to see another day, I swear it's true because a girl like you is impossible to find.

......It's Impossible!

So breath in so deep, ...breath me in I'm yours to keep and hold onto your words because talk is cheap. And, remember me tonight when you're asleep.

Because, tonight will be the night that I will fall for you, ....Over Again. Don't make me change my mind or I won't live to see another day, I swear it's true, because a girl like you is impossible to find.

Tonight will be the night that I will fall for you, ....Over Again. Don't make me change my mind or I won't live to see another day, I swear it's true, because a girl like you is impossible to find.

..........Impossible to find.

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Great song Vickym, :thumbs-up THX for sharing

I can sing it now, I listened to it so many times. (lol)


Hope

 

[Frankie]

Great song Vickym, very touching and at same time it can be considered hopeful for some :)

 

[Frankie]

I heard this song again today...while I was in a shopping centre. These past 2 days were the worst for me ....as much as I am trying to move on without him (my love left about 2 months ago). I am finding it very hard to do.

Lately I have been having good days where I think of him and manage not to cry...but these past 2 days were terrible. And hearing this song today...I broke down in the middle of a store and had to go out !

I guess it is the words "Tonight will be the night that I will fall for you, ....Over Again".....cause more days pass and the more I realize he is not coming back !

 

[cyndi]

Thanks for sharing. Nice song. I watched the video on UTube.

 

[Vickym]

Aww Frankie I am sorry! It is so sad I try not to think "never" cause you never know! I really do not know much about your relationship with him or what made him need space my bf's famous Army saying is think the worst hope for the best. It is so hard to spend time with someone you love so much and then to think about letting go or losing that hurts all the more. My bf was thinking about moving out not long ago I felt as if my whole world had been turned up side down. I wish some days of happiness!

 

[Frankie]

Hi Vickym,

I am an emotional person, so many songs get to me :)

My relationship was the best, I couldn't ask for a better partner, lover, friend...etc....he had a great sense of humour, was caring, affectionate, giving, patient, etc...everything I wanted in a partner....he was it !

He was everything to me ! I always use to tell him "I wouldn't trade you for a younger model" lol

I am trying very hard not to think about him, but he always creeps in my mind :) and this week, I don't know why, was the worst !

And I have to accept that he might not come back, I have to move on ! I think it is easier (well, for me it is) then waiting and hoping for him to call...or to show up at the door...etc., but you are right, we don't know what the future holds !

In my case I was the trigger ! Well, indirectly, but I now understand why he left ! You can read my post "I am heartbroken, I don't understand".

Even though I now understand, it is still very hard....cause I don't feel there was a closure ! One day he is in my life and the next he is gone ! Just complete silence !

I feel the same way you did...my world has turned upside down ! I miss him more with each passing day....but I will get better with time !

And I hope he can find happiness again and finds the peace he so greatly deserves !

 

[Nicolette]

Hi Frankie

The only thing I can offer is that perhaps you start thinking the person you were in love with is no longer present. Technically you are processing the death of a relationship and I found it helped me (with my divorce) to think that my ex-husband died (the person I knew) and he was replaced by another man who I did not know.

I know this sounds severe but it is what I had to do as I kept remembering my ex as the person I married and not the man who left.

 

[Frankie]

You are so right Nicolette, I am indeed mourning a loss. You put in writing what I was finding so hard to describe!

In my case I am mourning the loss of a relationship, a man that gave me everything, and is no longer there ! I don't recognize the man he was when he left ! The man I knew for 2 years was no longer there !

I am indeed mourning the death of my relationship with this man.

That is why I don't want to keep on hoping for his return, for me it is easier to think that it is completely over...that is the only way I will be able to move on.

And I have to stop thinking of the man I knew, cause then it would drive me crazy ! He was everything to me !! but now that has all changed !

Thanks, I still come here, even though technically I am not a carer anymore...I still need this forum ! Now, I need it for me ! You are all helping me a lot !

 

[Frankie]

Also,

It would have been so much easier to take if he had said to me when leaving "I hate you, I don't love you anymore, I can't be with you anymore" etc...then him saying "I love you and I always will" while he was packing to leave.

When he left, I felt like someone losing a loved one in a "missing person" scenario! You don't know if they are ok, where they are, are they safe ?, do they hurt, etc....and you wait and wait for news that might never come !!

It is better to know for sure that they cannot come back, so you can finally move on !

As brutal as it sounds....I understand what you are trying to say Nicolette ! You finally get a closure in thinking that way!

That is why I don't want to keep on hoping for his return, for me it is easier to think that it is completely over and he won't come back...that is the only way I will be able to move on.