A stranger in the mirror

[Anana]

I rarely look in the mirror but when I go past it I feel like there is a woman staring at me.
What is that? I don't think its a depersonalasation, I feel it another way when I experience it. Can it be smth with cognitive distortions? Because for me how I feel inside and how I look is completely different.

 

[blackemerald1]

Because for me how I feel inside and how I look is completely different.

Well, isn't that normal?

 

[Anana]

Hmmm...you mean it is quite ok to feel myself inside but not feel any connection with image in the mirror?

 

[blackemerald1]

Because for me how I feel inside and how I look is completely different.

No - that's not what I quoted. Not feeling any connection with the image in the mirror may be something entirely different. Idk.

You do recognise yourself - right? You do know it is you looking in the mirror - right? You don't think it really is a stranger - do you?

I get a shock sometimes when I look in the mirror too... lol... and I hate that it is me. But that's just vanity and denial that I'm not fabulously good looking and got a great body. I make sure there is no food or toothpaste on my face and leave the mirror in disgust most days. I've convinced myself I will work on the inner me because nothing is going to help the exterior anymore.

I feel different from what I see in the mirror. But I know dam well it's me. Unfortunately. :(

What do you feel when you look in the mirror.. is it a misrepresentation of the true you? Do you like the image that is reflected?

 

[Anana]

No I would say it's vica versa in my case. "She" is much better than me. Well...of course I understand it is still me but that is a confident pretty woman who is looking at ugly clumsy child.

 

[Ronin]

She should give you a hug, just saying.

Or maybe try smiling (at yourself), to break through that ugly not worthy eeek feeling?
Some times, things helping in interaction between people can bridge the connection when just with yourself, too.