Yeah it is. Thanks so much for opening up about your own hair. I don't feel so crazy now and that it can be a freeing experience. Gives me confidence that I'm not alone.I've had a similar experience, in that I'm a trans man who was forced to look feminine by my family for years. I had this long, beautiful hair that my family begged me not to cut no matter what, and strangers would also come up to me in public and say the same thing, so I felt a lot of guilt for wanting it cut.
Getting it cut was nerve wracking, but I just had someone (my close friend) do it and then he held it in front of me. Surreal moment. It felt like he was showing me my own severed hand, honestly, but right after that it was incredibly freeing.
I think if I had no friend, I would have eventually just shaved it off.
I picked a common hair style that's been particularly popular this decade, rather than trying to worry about the perfect haircut. I got something that I think is called an under cut?
I hope this is helpful even somewhat, good luck
"... The further you go in therapy the more you realize what was taken from you or tainted is now yours to take back, where possible...."My hair and my clothing style eventually became mine. The further you go in therapy the more you realize what was taken from you or tainted is now yours to take back, where possible. Control of presentation of oneself was huge as a part of my abuse. I’m good with my hair now. Clothing causes me a great deal of stress in some settings. Oddly a new thing is developing and that is the ability to be curious of others choices as opposed to feeling like I need to conform to them. I’m in a very nonjudgmental church right now. They dress to the nines. I have been developing my own nine. It is pretty far off from what I view as their nine. But that is the key point. Since I’m in a nonjudgmental setting privately assessing my ability to fit in, I’m realizing that I now own my own assessment of myself and my nine. In the same way I have learned to listen to my body I have also learned to listen to my heart. Some days I nail it and I’m super pumped about my presentation. As i write this I’m also having a moment of,hmmm, where is the word presentation coming from? Almost therapeutic to answer your question as I’m seeing that I have some insights I haven’t thought of until you asked. thanks, hope it helps. Be you. As you do you will figure out the you, that is the you , that you want. How is that for a mouthful?
Cutting one’s hair can be a very emotional experience.I am now part way through therapy I want to cut my hair short