Addicted To Masturbation?

[Liwa]

How much is too much?

I am female and in my mid 40's.
I have been masturbating since I was around 18. It was like once I discovered what an orgasm was
it was my go to, for relief. I would usually do it a few times a week.
Fast forward to now, I am in a committed relationship and we have a pretty good sex life, yet I still find myself masturbating on a daily basis.
Sometimes 3 or 4 times a day while my husband is at work, and I still want sex when he gets home. This is a lot of time spent thinking about sex in a day.

Is this healthy? I almost feel like I'm using it as a drug.

 

[Wahebil]

Yeah I think it's fine, it's meant to have health benefits anyway, isn't it?

A lot of women still masturbate in a relationship, even if satisfied by their partner.

 

[Duwob]

I used to do it a lot when I was at your age, but my husband was no longer interested, so that was why. I think it is OK, and try not to feel guilty about it. It is said to be a normal thing for people to do, at least that was what I read in a book entitled "EVERYTHING YOU WANTED TO KNOW ABOUT SEX: But Were Afraid to Ask." I read the book some 45 years ago, so I doubt it still is in print, but....

 

[Ucuke]

Is it interfering with other activities or negatively impacting your life?
Are you doing it so much that you don't want sex with your husband when you did before?

If both answers are no, I wouldn't see it as a problem.

Using it as a drug? Well, I would think it raises endorphins to help lift moods... And I can think of worse drugs that do that...

 

[Imib]

I don't think that there is anything wrong with masturbation itself

the difficulties would come with things like feelings of shame over it

or with fantasies that are about people who you can't have - and ending up developing strong and unrealistic feelings for them.

Masturbation itself is fine, go for it!

 

[Ivif]

are you in pre menopause? you can go into a phase where that goes on. Got so bad that I could not listen to my husbands voice without wanting to jump him even after a few times on my own... evened out after about a year.

still get a laugh out of him reading a grocery list on the phone seductively when it was going on.

 

[Liwa]

I also watch a lot of porn while pleasuring myself. Most of it is based around some Bdsm theme. Spanking, anal, forced sex, but not the really brutal stuff. I don't want to end sex crying and bleeding.
I'm guessing this is because of the sexual abuse when I was a child.

I just feel like I spend a lot of time thinking about or having sex, from the responses here, I seem to be pretty normal, lol

 

[Fejagu]

You are at the peak of your sex drive. I hear a lot of women have the same surge in desire before menopause.

 

[Ibom]

There is nothing wrong with it. I'm assuming you're a woman. Today just saying your husband doesn't state for a fact you're female but I'll assume.
If you were a man you wouldn't even be wondering. There is nothing wrong with having a healthy libido. When I was in my forties, I had a lot of phone sex. It was kinda fun having someone cheer me on. Pathetic but still fun. Not the kind you pay for but it would start online.
May you have another forty years of going strong.

 

[Orop]

To the poster above me, they did state they were female, but you are absolutely correct.

 

[Jesem]

One of those odd things about human physiology, it's been mentioned here a couple times already. Around 40 is when a woman hits her sexual prime.

Men on the other hand, well... 18, is the average peak. Would love to know what the good lord was thinking when he added that little design feature. No wonder Oedipus syndrome is a real thing. :facepalm:

If you aren't hurting anyone else, or yourself. Then, well... sounds like you're just horny. In which case, have fun.

Now... If you will excuse me, I'm far too uptight for this conversation. Lol :hilarious::oops:

 

[Fujut]

LOL...