Advice Request: PT Is Angry Because I Fell Off The Wagon

[2quilt]

Because I am not mentally healthy and lacking in all the various highly prized social skills and correct interpretations of social situations, I would like your helpful and valuable advice on a little problem.

I am in physical therapy for a car accident (yes, another one) and am dieting also, with the help of this woman who is 50 kilos (100 pounds ) soaking wet. I weigh 260, (117 kilos) and last week I ate 4 boxes of Girl Scout cookies on a binge.

I admitted this to her and now she's so mad at me that she refuses to talk to me. I mean she really takes this as a personal insult and is sincerely angry at me.

She has never had a problem with food, never been overweight, never been addicted to sugar, does not even crave or like sugar or chocolate.

How should I handle this one, folks?

 

[Tiger Kitten]

Let me get this straight. You ate some cookies on a binge. Now, she won't talk to you? Seems she needs to learn some social skills. That is a childish reaction on her part. Instead of getting angry and causing you more distress she should be helping you figure out a way to combat your binging urges. I am lacking in social skills as well, but it seems she is too. No one is perfect. Sometimes, everyone makes mistakes or does something that they regret.

Tiger.

 

[Marlene]

Personally I'd tell her it's none of her damn business what you weigh or what you eat. She's there to provide a medical service to you, not be the freaking cookie nazi. She's not there to have her feelings petted and pampered. If she can't deal with it, too freaking bad.

Unless you two are friends, the way I'd handle this is to remind her of your relationship (professional, not personal) and if she still has issues then I'd ask for another PT.

I'm sorry if I come off really bitchy here, but when I read this it pissed me off that a person in a supossedly professional capacity is acting like a spoiled teenager who got her little feelings hurt. Grow up, lady.

*stepping off soap-box now*
Lisa

 

[amethist]

Hi 2quilt

Tell her to pick her teddy up and be the grown up she is supposed to be.

We all fall of the wagon occasionally, whatever our impulses are. Nobody's perfect and it sound like she has further to go than you have to get there.

Amethist

 

[Deleted member 541]

OMG!!!!!!! We are talking 4 frigging boxes of cookies here. You didn't kill anyone, this is fixable. It's not even that you were HIDING the fact, you OWNED up to it and took responsibility for it. YOU are the adult here, she clearly has an an issue with power......

2quilt, I give you so much credit.. You are trying, and to come here and post your weight, the fact that you do have an issue, and are trying to work on it, is something to be proud of........

Don't beat yourself up over this... Just get back on the wagon, and try again... Isn't that what recovery is all about anyway??? We fall down, we learn from our mistakes, and we get back on the fricking wagon again.......Baby steps......

BTW????? What cookies were they???? LOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!!!! I love GS cookies, but I am staying away, cause I have NO WILL POWER at all... If they are here, I eat them period!!!!!!! But, I do have Nutella, if I want it.....

 

[gdf]

Sounds like she picked the wrong profession.

Maybe PT on her name tag really stands for physical terrorist!?

 

[a3a2]

Tell the witch to jump in a lake. She's suppose to be helping you, and a big part of that is being understanding.

 

[anni]

Oh Good God, she's one of those dreadfull, smug little skinny kids, isn't she? What she SHOULD have done was agreed that Girl Scout Cookie time should be outlawed. SHE is the only person in the United States who did NOT succumb to 4 boxes of the dam things. What on earth 'shame' is there in this? Yes, you had a binge-did you hit HER in the head with the boxes? Did she have to put on any weight? She wasn't hurt, but she is acting as if you damaged her in some way! This is a professional who knows you'll get back on track, work hard, and feel awful at having been derailed. I really would see if you can have another person to work with because this one seems just plain mean, don't you think? If there's a superier to report this to, that would be a way to go also. Not out of vindictiveness, but because if this is this girl's career path, she is doing it incredibly incorrectly and requires an adjustment in methodology.

Really, you're paying her to do a job, not judge you. It sounds to me like you're doing a perfectly lovely job all the way around. Girl Scout Cookie time is awful for us cookie hounds! Nice children selling incredibly good cookies for a good cause! What an unfair temptation! Sigh. We'll have our guards out next year, but can't they sell celery?

Take care,

Anni

 

[suzie q]

Perhaps being the cookie nazi, she should take her rather unhealthy attitude to the Girl Scouts and see how far she gets! They'll kick her arse right to the curb!

Shaming someone is very unhealthy. If it were me, I would approach the girl, look her dead in the eye and say "I give you back your shame. It's not mine, it is your." Then I'de find another PT with more experience helping those with therapy like they should, and not being "Miss Hissy-Fit!"

Hang in there!!
suzie q

 

[catjudo]

Punishing you or admonishing you for your slip is never going to be effective. A true professional would have thanked you for your honesty but pointed out to you that it didn't mean the end of the world or even the end of your diet plan. Everyone makes mistakes, slips, has splurges (or binges) whatever the case may be. The important thing is that you recognize it wasn't the best choice and you get back on your diet plan. Don't let that one slip ruin the path that you were on. Put the cookie incident behind you and continue on with your diet. If this woman is not adult/professional enough to recognize this then she is not the person you want to be working with. Find someone else with a better, more understanding, and healthier attitude.

 

[2quilt]

Thanks so much everyone! I had a talk with her (she owns the business so there is no higher authority to complain to in this case, ) but it makes one wonder if she does own the business because she could not work with anyone else! I reminded her that i was honest, I never tried to hide it, and she admitted to being really at the end of her emotional rope that day, before my appointment time , so we hugged and it was settled.
2 thin mints, one peanut butter and one cookie box of those with a mixture of peanut butter and chocolate.

I think that the GS girls have the same modus operendi as the tobacco companies: they get us addicted, then raise the price while making the boxes contain less of what we crave. I remember when GS cookies had 12 ounces for $2, now they have 9 ounces for $4. Also, as I age, the girls selling the cookies get younger.

I do overdose on sugar when angry, upset, sad, PTSD-ing, or very happy. (Wait, does that sound like a daily occurrence?)

 

[a3a2]

2QUilt,

I'm really proud of you for confronting her on the issue! Good job!!!