Always exhausted

[amanda3of4]

Hello everyone, I have a quick question for you. Recently I've been forced to move in with my past abusor. It's SUPPOSED to be temporary, but temporary is turning out to be a somewhat longer term temporary than I expected. Since I moved in, I've gone from a semi normal sleep schedule to I'm ALWAYS exhausted. I go to bed between 10pm - 12am and wake up between 10am - 12pm. Usually I get about 10 hours of sleep. But when I wake up I'm awake for 2-3hours before I'm completely exhausted again. Most of the time I go back to sleep for a good 2-3 hours before waking up again. It's strange. I feel like I could just sleep forever. No kidding. Once in a while I'll go to bed between 10pm-12am and not wake up again until 3pm-4pm. This has got to be a problem, but I don't know what to do. It's not the only worsening symptom either, and now I've been cut off from using marijuana medically even though it's SUCCESSFULLY replaced hard narcotics because I need to find a new job.

I just need to know if there's a way to give myself more energy and not sleep day in and day out.

Thanks all!

 

[Changing4Best]

Have you seen a Medical Dr. recently, to rule out any physical problem(s)?

 

[Chem Lady]

I only improved in my energy when I moved very far away from the insanity-causers. You could very well be exhausted because your mind, body and spirit are using up all their energy dealing with living with your abuser. You may only find relief if you get away.

 

[Changing4Best]

What she says sounds very wise also.

 

[Lesza]

I have a similar problem. I blamed my hormone problems mostly, but it turned out it's not the whole story. I had an occasion to separate from the environment that reminded me all painful experiences and to live away from it for some period. So, I didn't interact with persons connected with my ‘trauma’. I didn’t have problems with being sleepy, I didn’t require so many hours to stay fresh all day, I was full of energy even if I slept a little. Now, when I returned and I am forced to meet all that people, especially the one who tried to rape me, and all my neighbors that abused me in the past, I have problem with being tired even if I sleep a lot. First month after I returned was the worst month. I couldn’t wake up and had to sleep more in the morning and during a day, it was like having a severe depression again. Now it’s a bit less severe but still bothersome. That tiredness complicates my daily functioning.

I think the only solution is to separate from your past abuser. Or at least try to find some ways to ease the tension that builds up inside you. I noticed that when I apply some relaxation techniques I am not so sleepy. What you have experienced will always stay in your subconsciousness, even if you’re not aware how much it affects you. Like it stays in mine. His presence activates your defending system, he is the trigger – your mind is set that way, it remembers him as a danger. I think it’s hypervigilance, no wonder it makes us exhausted.

I just want to tell you I understand what it feels like.

Take care!