Sexual Assault Am I Nuts To Consider The Nurses Rapists

[The Albatross]

It's not really an either or proposition... doubtless you were angry at the nurses as well. But... post traumatic event... a lot of the anger may have been linked to being invalidated? Just a query.

 

[Tigergirl1217]

It's not really an either or proposition... doubtless you were angry at the nurses as well. But......

Most likely you are correct about the invalidation part

 

[The Albatross]

Now you got something you can work on that can improve rather than stay stuck on the nurses? Of course there is some healing in that area too... but you can revisit with adult mind and maybe some inner child work to deal with that to improve. But in therapy, maybe when you think of your parent's invalidation your brain throws you back to the beginning. That is pretty darned common... but I had to learn how to re-story trauma incidents... and continue the story all the way to the place where I was safe. That took work... 26-28 days makes a new habit, 6 months a new behavior.

 

[Mit]

I can understand your anger with your mom. My parents totally supported everything the medics did to me. The intense 'personal care' continued at home too, well into my teens. Enough of that.

There's some great advice from your friends here. I feel far from competent to give advice, but perhaps try not to spend too long looking back asking why. It's what I have done, for years, and I can honestly say it hasn't helped much. In my case It seems the past provides no clear answers, or no answers that really satisfy and heal.

I wonder if looking forward is the only way and place that healing can truly happen. I hope you can look forward too, and find healing comfort and happiness. You deserve it.

Take care. Mit

 

[Kailani]

I am sorry you felt violated!!!! The nurses were following a doctors order. The procedure you describe sounds like an IVP where they put betadine cleaning brown soap on your private area and then insert a catheter to sometimes put dye or measure how much urine is in your bladder. It can be used to see if the ureters are functioning properly. There had to be a reason it was ordered; the doctor was very concerned possibly with pain with urination, frequent urination or frequent infections. I have had to insert tons of catheters in children and it was to relieve suffering; couldn't pee and felt they were going to explode, life or death situations to make sure kids were hydrated, and simply just for a urine sample. The nurses don't want to violate you but help you to get past a horrible time and live your life to the fullest; play!!!! Your experience sounds horrible for you and traumatic and I am so sorry it has left you with PTSD. I can tell you that every time I did insert a catheter I prayed and prayed for the child and tried to comfort before, during and after the procedure as much as possible. Glad you are here and seeking help to deal with how this horrible experience has affected you. It is much like putting in an IV; you have to poke the child but it's to save their life. If kidney infections persist they can kill people and be excruciatingly painful; so I wouldn't put them; the nurses or doctors in the same category as rapists!!! Most of my job was getting children comfortable after surgery and not in pain and the relief on their faces was wonderful along with sleep and always the thanks they gave. I too have had medical trauma so I understand that the lines get blurry because of the devastating effects from it. Best wishes for you!!!!l I also want you to know that I am not saying that those particular nurses were acting as they should have; I have worked with some horrible, lying nurses and also some of the most wonderful, sweetest child loving nurses. People are people whatever profession they are in. You are a testament to how the medical profession needs to take care of the whole child and not treat them like cars to just fix what's wrong and no time to care about their crying ; let mom deal with it, next... I have been fighting against that!!!!! I believe wherever you had that procedure done should know ( manager) the trauma it caused you so it can be fixed!!!