Hi Mariah,
I totally get where you're coming form here. I crave intimacy too, and snuggling in bed really helps me to feel loved. My guy (who suffers from PTSD) isn't very snuggly a lot of the time, usually because he finds it difficult to get comfortable in bed due to chronic lower back pain. At first, I was upset when he pulled away from me in bed. We talked about it and he understands that I have a higher need for physical intimacy than he does. So we compromise. We always start the night in bed together (even if he gets up after 10 minutes and sleeps on the couch - better for his back), and we spend at least a bit of time with at least one part of us touching. Sometimes it's just a foot that's touching, but the bottom line is, when he's in pain, he doesn't feel like snuggling. But I insist on cuddles throughout the day, and sometimes we have a joke about how 'hug-intensive' I am.
I don't believe that anyone here is saying you should just "get over it." I think what they are saying is that you should consider whether this issue is a dealbreaker for you in the relationship, in case it doesn't ever get any better. Little things have a habit of becoming big things when they are left unresolved in the long term.
You've mentioned that you've told your partner about your need for snuggling in bed. But are you confident that he truly understands how this affects you? It's hard to approach situations like this without one or both people becoming defensive, but would it be worth a try to bring up the issue again - in a kind and loving way (not when you're feeling upset and angry about it, of course!), and see if you both can come to some sort of compromise? Hopefully you can both find a way through this issue. Hugs if you need them :)
