An Ah-ha Moment In Parenting

[a3a2]

I had a major "ah-ha" moment in parenting tonight, and needed to share it with someone, without my child feeling talked about. I need to share it so I remember it. I am sure others of you have these parents as well. Please, share them, so we can learn from them as well.

My "ah-ha" moment: My child is big time type A personality. And, a typical teenage girl riding the waves of her hormones. Tonight she started weeping and carrying on about a particular lost homework assignment. I realized I listened to this chorus AT LEAST ONCE A WEEK (about an assignment from the EXACT SAME CLASS!), and have always been quick to jump in, soothe her and help her "solve" the problem. And, released her from having to think through how to prevent the problem in the future.

I pointed this out to her, and instructed her on some simple organization techniques....I probably should have asked for her ideas instead, but at least I am making progress!

 

[who am i kim]

I think it will be a great thread for those with families. Good on you for starting it off. :)

 

[Abstract]

I don;t have children but I would have tended to do exactly what you did! Especially earlier in my life. Well done for figuring it out!

 

[Bilby]

I think as a parent we often, rather automatically, jump in and want to 'fix' things for our children. However, it's not always the best thing is it? What we need to actually do is help the learn the tools to be independent, sensible people. Thanks for the reminder! :)

 

[Britt.f7]

Kudos to you. Standing back is often hard to do, but we have to do it for them to learn.

My boys are teenagers now. I love those ah ha moments. I love it more when they get them! ;)

 

[DharmaGirl]

Oh, good idea for a thread. When I think of some I will post them, but I haven't had my coffee yet, lol.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Good for you. You are on your way. Kids do not come with instructions and there is so much we have to figure out on our own. I am proud of you. I wish you well in this endeavor. Hugs.