Angry, But Not Sure Why

[captpudge]

most people that know me say i am a pretty laid back guy but the one the thing that gets me angry beyond anything is when they give me praise for something that i don't think i deserve
examples are as follows
saying you looked like you lost weight
getting on 1st base within baseball
people you havent seen in awhile acting like they care what your up to
and other irritating attempt to soothe ones ego

so i just want to know is it normal to get angry at someone just trying to be nice

 

[Deleted member 541]

Some of us with PTSD have tons of issues with .....

Trusting other people.

Believing what they say is truthful.

Issues with self esteem.

Anger, just because.

Not sure if you fit in this or not. as I don't know if you have PTSD.

 

[NotDepressed]

No, I don't think it's "normal" to be angry at someone else trying to make small talk. Annoyed, maybe, but as long as you keep your annoyance hidden, it's probably with the realm of normality to think to yourself, "Why do you give a crap if I've (a. lost weight, b. been up to anything, c. been living on the streets)?".

Some people with PTSD seem to be quick to anger. Someone told me that angry people usually feel they've been dealt a raw deal in life. They're angry at the injustice of life. I honestly haven't got it all (or most of it) figured out yet.

 

[becvan]

I get very irritated with small talk. It's pointless, drags out and I can't stand it. A shortcoming many with ptsd has. Do not listen to this "it's not normal."

I do agree that we shouldn't just explode on some poor chap just trying to be friendly. Work on anger management and social experiences. That's my two cents.

bec

 

[NotDepressed]

becvan,

I wasn't trying to be negative with saying it wasn't "normal," but if it were the norm wouldn't everyone be getting angry with their neighbors and the people in the grocery store all day long? Why the hang up on the word "normal" anyway? It probably is a common symptom of PTSD to be angry over seemingly harmless things.

 

[becvan]

We are on a PTSD forum.. it doesn't matter in the least what is normal for the common person, what does matter is what is normal for us. Although I agree with not getting hung up on what is normal, saying to someone with PTSD on a PTSD forum that it isn't normal is implying that it's not normal for PTSD. Hence why I take issue with it. All it does is alienate that person further.

bec

 

[linasmom]

I get very irritated with small talk. It's pointless, drags out and I can't stand it.
bec

I told my Therapist this EXACT thing last week. I definitely think it's common amongst PTSDers. I would love to be able to have small talk because I think it's a gateway into making friendships so I know it's something I need to work on.