Anniversary-father's Day- Pain Deep Healing And Anger At Domestic Violence

[anthony]

You can explain yourself but I have an idea already of what goes on here with moderators ganging up on certain individuals. By the way just wanted to let you know, it's so OBVIOUS.

What is obvious... is that you're pissing me off with your shit attitude. Staff have a role to perform, attacking them is not up for debate and is as good as attacking me. Follow staff direction or I will ban your account, its that simple.

 

[xena21]

The guy had just as much right to say as you did. He was abused like you were How insensitive that you couldn't see that. You should be banned.

 

[KP the nut]

@xena21 Staff are handling this. Please do not inflame the situation. You have not even responded to the thread topic.

 

[xena21]

Sorry about that.

 

[xena21]

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Kpthenut said that stating my truth was attacking someone else when that individual who was not being supportive and being inappropriate with ME was what was going on

I'm sorry I got triggered by the whole thread. I had a really tough Fathers Day. I just thought that support was what was supposed to come from this sight. When I saw this thread I got upset. I'm sorry. I know you all will handle it.

 

[Deleted member 20280]

@xena21 thankyou for as they put it 'fighting my corner'.

I am very greatful for your support in relation to my reply to this thread.

If I may explain. My intention on responding was not to belittle in any way the thread posters anxiety at Fathers day, quite the opposite.

For me, as an absent Father only recently (a year ago) diagnosed with severe PTSD from childhood abuse issues spanning some 15 years, added with Severe Combat PTSD and a near fatal car crash in 2001 where I was one of the drivers, Fathers Day is a highly emotional day for me as well. Until my own breakdown a year ago I was always home on fathers day and was always awoken with the sounds of giggling children screaming for their Daddy.

Last Fathers day and this have been extremely tough on me as I have always been a good father my entire adult life.

Although I fully accept that there are really really bad fathers out there who abuse and hurt their Children I myself was never one of those. I simply in my emotionally distressed state on Saturday responded to this thread to re-iterate that Not all fathers are bad people and there are good fathers, as I view myself as much as there are bad fathers. On the same vein there are fantastic Mothers out there the same as there are Bad Mothers.

Fathers day for me the last 19 years I have been a Father have been some of the most Joyous days of my life.

I am of the mindset that to lable all men as bad or all wome as bad is blinkered and non-productive. I have been married twice now and my first wife was an adulteress. My currently estranged wife is a fantastic mother to our six children and I would challenge anyone who differed in that opinion. Unfortunatelly for me she refuses to accept my diagnosis as I have beeen failed my the UK Mental Health Services until today.

If I struck a raw nerve with the thread poster that prompted the response I received, I can only apologise as this was not my intention. My intention was simply to voice that not all men are abusers and mysoginists the same as not all women are adulteresses.

We as a forum are all prone to emotional outbursts from time to time and this is a symptom of PTSD that we all need to recognise and control.

I have no malice against the thread poster on this topic whatsoever.

Fathers Day is an emotionally anxious time for men and women the same, for similar and differing reasons and if my reply/words of reply upset anyone I apoligise unreservedly as this was not my intention.

Laurie

 

[xena21]

Fathers Day is an emotionally anxious time for men and women the same, for similar and differing reasons and if my reply/words of reply upset anyone I apoligise unreservedly as this was not my intention

I understand completely. I didn't mean to cause any harm by what I said. I didn't want to trigger anyone. I got triggered myself. My grandmother was just as much an abuser as my grandfather and I recognize women to be just as bad as men when it comes to abusers in the family system. I guess I felt that you were being ganged up on and I was feeling angry all at once at my grandmother. I have a distrust of everyone...both men and women, so nobody is safe from my vengeance. I guess that's a bad thing.

I have one person in the world I trust and I try to stay with that rule. Thats not good but maybe someday it will change. I wish you the best with your kids.

 

[Deleted member 20280]

@xena21 your reply did not harm me in anyway as neither did any of the replies.

:hug:s Santa