Announcement - Newly Divorced

[Loloma]

Hi all, I would like to announce that my divorce was finalised on the 4th September 2012.

There is only a tinge of sadness, feelings more of relief than anything else. I would like to thank everyone who supported me over the last year, whilst in a state of depression, hurt and confusion. You've all been great!

 

[Nicolette]

Onwards and upwards Loloma! Wishing you a bright future.

 

[Trembling]

I wish you happiness and many "I love myself" - days!!!!

 

[Tanishq]

I was not here last year. But I understand what you are saying, it is not easy step to take. It must have been hard for you. You believe in love. :hug: to you Loloma.

 

[p-no]

Sincere congratulations, Loloma.

 

[Srain]

(((((((((((((Loloma))))))))))))))

Congratulations on stepping into your new self and new life.

I understand the mixed emotions of divorced hard fought.
Sending you peaceful and healing thoughts,
Rain

 

[CraftyCath]

You are such a strong lady Loloma and I admire you greatly.

I could say congratulations but I feel a big 'well done' is more appropriate. I'm so glad it is over and finalised and you can now focus on 'you' as you truly deserve to.

Missing you and sending you love and hugs. x :hug:

CC
For you....

 

[Loloma]

Ohhhhhh girls, thank you so much it just brought a tear to my eye. You are all so sweet and kind and wonderful. Pity my ex wasn't 10% that way.

Well I've dumped him in Holland and have to keep away from those Dutch men. Married two of them :eek::oops:, some people never learn.

Now you won't believe this, but I am now working part time for my son and my first ex!!!! the boys father. Looks like I have done a 360 OMG! :confused::cautious::laugh:.

 

[The Albatross]

Take good care of yourself Loloma, very glad you're doing okay.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

O am happy for you. Good for you. Now your life is yours to build and shape as you will.

 

[AngelKeeperJ]

Congrats, Loloma! I know how it feels to be set free from an unhappy marriage. I would rather be single and unhappy, than married and unhappy. At least if you are single, no one else controls any part of your life unless it's by choice or you have to share kids. I can only blame myself if I have issues that are my fault.

I hope your newly single life is peaceful and relaxing. Soak in the freedom!! It may take practice, but you'll get used to it! Depends on how miserable you were.

:laugh: AKJ

 

[Loloma]

Thank you AKJ. Unfortunately there are many reasons for relationship breakdowns, I stayed in my first marriage thinking I was doing the right thing for my kids. Boy, was I wrong. Ultimately the children suffered because I stayed. It would have been better if I left while they were young.

I blame myself for the problems that they have had as adults with their own relationship breakdowns. I was not a good role model. Can't change any of it now, and have learnt to stop beating myself up for it either.

Sometimes you're damned if you do and damned if you don't.

Married the second one as he was the total opposite. No violent, but passive agressive and uncaring, well it's all in the past now. It's very hard to make good choices if you haven't had a normal background or been taught boundaries.