Annoying people

[Ronin]

Can also be super cultural.

Some places loud is just normal tone. Because nobody hears a goddamn thiiing otherwise.

Ditto environs. Can't keep it down everywhere.

 

[Invisible Fire]

I just had a thought - is it possible that you are annoyed by attention seeking people in general and not by loud sounds per se?

that is a very interesting thought. I can't explain why but that makes sense with some aspects of my trauma.

 

[Ronin]

:) Draw attention = Threat to life reflex, or something maybe more nuanced?

((Even tho feeling threatened on life by just glimpses or a mere chance of being spotted, can be shaded a lot on its own.

Just wondering if it's that trigger/stressor, or more tangled by something else.))

 

[Invisible Fire]

:) Draw attention = Threat to life reflex, or something maybe more nuanced?

((Even tho feeling threatened on life by just glimpses or a mere chance of being spotted, can be shaded a lot on its own.

Just wondering if it's that trigger/stressor, or more tangled by something else.))

I was abused over many years. The majority of my abuse was focused around gatherings. The louder the gathering the easier my abuser had it. I was a child and the adults that should have been protecting me were busy being loud and obnoxious, sometimes in the next room. Maybe this isn't the connection but it is an interesting thought. I know that loud groups of people trigger me but never made the connection of a single person. Seems obvious now

 

[Juso]

I was abused over many years. The majority of my abuse was focused around gatherings. The louder the gathering the easier my abuser had it. I was a child and the adults that should have been protecting me were busy being loud and obnoxious, sometimes in the next room. Maybe this isn't the connection but it is an interesting thought. I know that loud groups of people trigger me but never made the connection of a single person. Seems obvious now

That makes perfect sense to me.

 

[Ronin]

Yup, getcha.

So loud = cover for abuse?

You could turn that on its ear, now... Remind yourself of the ways loud is either just its own thing, nothing follows... or something hiding you FROM harm, until it can be neutralized.

Aka where loud = protection.
Because over all that noise, you're hard to spot / find. Much less give people a chance for hurting you.

 

[Invisible Fire]

Yup, getcha.

So loud = cover for abuse?

You could turn that on its ear, now... Remind yourself of the ways loud is either just its own thing, nothing follows... or something hiding you FROM harm, until it can be neutralized.

Aka where loud = protection.
Because over all that noise, you're hard to spot / find. Much less give people a chance for hurting you.

yes I see where I can start using this to my advantage. Thank you