DharmaGirl
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I also had a therapist who worked hard on getting me to attach, since I didn't attach well to people. He also shared too much and treated me like a friend a lot of the time. He left after 5 years, and I was terribly re-traumatized to the point I couldn't function. I also felt as you did, that I would have liked to be his friend, no erotic feelings. He told me he would email me after he left, he wanted to go to my church group, and he wanted to give me his card with his new phone number on it. I refused because by that time he had crossed so many boundaries, even I realized that it wasn't good. My next therapist not associated with that practice wanted to report him. My present therapist, whom I like a lot, was horrified when I told her some of the things he said and did. I have been working with this therapist 1 1/2 years, I think, and now she is leaving, but there is none of the feelings like there were with my first T. It's not because I don't like her, it's because I am happy for her with her new opportunities and I don't feel abnormally attached to her.
I really feel for you, since it sounds like it is so painful, like it was for me. My T would also encourage me to be attached, then say or do something that directly countered it. So for someone with disorganized attachment, it was feeding into it. Ugh, I'm so glad I never have to see him again. This is after 2 1/2 years. I got some good things out of his therapy, but I also swore I'd never allow myself to get attached to anyone again, in that crazy way, and I haven't.
I really feel for you, since it sounds like it is so painful, like it was for me. My T would also encourage me to be attached, then say or do something that directly countered it. So for someone with disorganized attachment, it was feeding into it. Ugh, I'm so glad I never have to see him again. This is after 2 1/2 years. I got some good things out of his therapy, but I also swore I'd never allow myself to get attached to anyone again, in that crazy way, and I haven't.
