Any Advice.

[illusionist]

As you know this will pass, then you can get back on track again.....where you left off from.....seems impossible atm I know, but it's the only way to go.

Be good to yourself and try to lift your spirits in doing stuff that helps you.

 

[Gadgie]

Yea! I'm just angry because I thought I was claiming over the top of the ridge of the hole I've been in, only to slide right down into another hole?

This PTSD is hard to live with, and it's only other folk who have it, that can understand just how I feel right now.

 

[illusionist]

Please believe me when I say the gaps between the holes do widen.....and you do find a rope to stop you falling the whole way, when you do.

You are right...folks like us understand each other and this is the very place to be free to say what you feel......I'm slowly learning that one.

Pm me if you want to.

 

[The Albatross]

Nightmares are not to be confused with the business of living Gadgie... I've had them most all of my life. They are the subconscious unfettered only. I don't give them sway over the course of my day. Disturbing? Surely... but it is from my own psyche and not intended to hurt... a bit of a more generally beneficial belief about their presence in my life. Seldom are they not present.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

One of my therapists explained the healing spiral. It is like a coil starting at the bottom. There is a light side and a dark side and yet even though we feel we have hit bottom yet again, we are still going up on the dark side of the spiral. Keep on walking and you will reach the light side again. I really hope this is useful, it really helped me so much. Hugs.

 

[Gadgie]

Quote..........."Nightmares are not to be confused with the business of living Gadgie"

Aye! Thing is, my nightmares are real events that I've been through, and so vivid that everything is there, colour, weather, sound and smell, it's like reliving it, all over again!

When I wake up screaming, it takes my brain a while to realise where I am, and during that time I am totally confused, scared and embarrassed, that's why I hate having them.

 

[The Albatross]

Yeah... that you've BEEN through. Mine too by the way.

 

[Gadgie]

Well, we have that in common then, do yours leave you totally confused when you first wake up as well?

 

[The Albatross]

Sometimes... but once my eyes open I orient for a bit before getting out of bed. Then I go on with my day. They ease some, then flare up again... but I basically decided I'm not really large and in charge of the content of my dreams/nightmares. Past is past, and they don't cross over into my days nearly as much as they used to.

 

[Gadgie]

I can only hope that happens to me in the future, but it's been like that for a few years with me, ever since the event that triggered the problems I'm having just now?

 

[Laurie2001]

I can only hope that happens to me in the future, but it's been like that for a few years with me, ever s...

Not everyone say the past is the past when they have nightmares that are basically flashbacks. That's horrible to go through. I don't know if its OK saying this on the site, but medication has been approved specifically for ptsd nightmares and flashbacks. Its called Prazosin and I've taken it and I sleep through the night now without problem. They've done research on it specifically with vets whose nightmares can be horrendous. So it may be something to look into. I would talk with a psychiatrist about it though not your regular doctor. But if you google it on the web you can see the research. I'm not a vet, just so you know. But it helped me too.

 

[Changing4Best]

A widow in her 60s would I guess, and I am one, so I know. I am not looking to get married ever again, because I know I would measure a man's worth against my husband's and the poor fellow would always come up short, but hey, no one knows for sure if that would be the case except God maybe. My husband was not an outgoing person either, he was more of a one on one kind of guy. So you never know....

You might be able to meet one at the local library or something. If you like to read, chances are that she likes to also.