Anyone Else Feeling Unsupported?

[Changing4Best]

I do get support here generally. I may not get the answer(s) I'm looking for, but then if one thinks one will get a certain answer, has not one's own mind answered the question one is asking already?

I also try to give support too. That is just as important as getting support. SO remember that you need to give support to receive it too. Life is a two way street and we don't always receive if we don't give too.

I am sorry you did not get what you were looking for and I do want to give my support to you on that issue. I suggest that you try to ask your question or state your situation differently, in hopes that you might get the support you are looking for this next time. Also, give it some time. You might get answers some week or two later, this has happened to me here too.

 

[Nette]

I definitely understand about lack of support. I had everything and now family and friends as well as case workers instead of giving the help that I need will say things like" this is not like you or what's going on with you. It's a pain to go around explaining to everyone my problem especially when I am the one trying to fix the generational curse of mental illness that must have existed in my family in the first place. By all means, keep your head up and no that even some professionals don't have a clue on helping us. You really have to educate them.

 

[anthony]

Without being specific, it is regarding my activity on the site.

Good. This site is a tool. You use it to get yourself to a better place, then you get away from it. If you go to crap again, you return, get support, give support, get away again. It's no different from therapy IMHO... you have to walk on your own two feet, and constantly looking towards any source for help is a hinderance, not a help. Decisions are good... my only advice is whatever decision you make, follow through with it.

As for direction of threads... they tend to wander around, which I find is often a good thing, however; it is also up to the OP to keep a thread on point IF that is what they want, and should not criticise them for wandering, when it is the OP who controls their contents direction here by asking others to stay on point, when they get off point.

 

[Disquieted]

...other posts I've made where I was really hoping more would reply but few did.

I just wanted to say how honest this was. I'm certain we all feel this way at times. It's so difficult to just admit we have needs. Maybe to just come out and preface a post by saying "I need a response or whatever it is" and then carrying that into real life. I'm so not good with that.

 

[Knak]

To make sure I'm reading correctly: I'm hearing that you wrote a post, it didn't get the number, depth, or types of responses you were hoping for... So you asked how to better write the post... And are hurt because people told you how to better write the post to get the answers you're looking for?

One of these can't win for losing days, huh? I definitely have those! Hurt because I don't get what I ask for, and then hurt when I do get what I ask for! Darn emotions.

Have you tried rephrasing, or reformatting, to see if the suggestions work?

If I was the one who posted the original comment, and the first response, saying "to make sure I am reading correctly", with interpretation following, I would have been intimidated. The interpretation read far more into the post than existed and it sounded pretty critical to me, as well as not on the mark.
It would help to know what the original post/s being referred to said, and the responses received, if you want to verify the value of their supportive nature.
To me this response came across as, "they told you you were wrong, and what to do to be right, and yet you complain."
How do you know what the responses said and if they were helpful?
This naval gazing is somewhat a waste of time but I was surprised by the response and felt it could have been hurtful to the poster.

I also want to say that the "Anonymous" picture frightens me as I have been hacked by them and was sent an intimidating message.

 

[Friday]

If I was the one who posted the original comment, and the first response, saying "to make sure I am reading correctly", with interpretation following, I would have been intimidated. The interpretation read far more into the post than existed and it sounded pretty critical to me, as well as not on the mark.
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<grin> Probably a good thing you weren't the OP then! :D

Here's what the OP had to say

There are two comments I would like to specifically address. One of the first comments made by Link Removed - yes, your interpretation of what I was looking for is completely accurate. One of the suggestions from another member was to make the title a question, and I can see from the responses to this thread how well it works. However, I do not feel that rewriting my original thread would be beneficial because it will be so far down in the forum that responses are still unlikely. Again, this is only my opinion.

While there's no way on earth I can judge what other people will find intimidating... I can tell you that that was not my intent. Nor being critical/dismissive or hurtful. That's just not how I operate in general, nor in this case specifically.

When I ask a question? I mean it. It's a question, not a device.
- Sometimes I'll straight up ask a question & then wait for an answer. "Do you mean A?"
- Sometimes I'll go ahead, like in this post, and explain my premise & conclusion. "What I'm hearing is A. If A then B. Is A correct?"

If A is incorrect, then B is pretty pointless, and usually doesn't apply.

Simply asking A, or asking A and if so B, is a personal choice. Whether I do one or the other depends on the situation at hand.