RedwoodPaladin
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I tried out for this organization on campus that I've been thinking about joining for over 6 months, and I tried my best considering how hectic the week was, but I didn't get in. The whole process felt very rushed and I was definitely emotionally drained after it. Good context to note is that I strongly dislike anything having to do with trying out/auditioning because it creates, in my opinion, a superficial exclusivity.
Does anyone have trouble dealing with "cuts" or rejection based opportunities? Typically, I try to create some emotional distance between the opportunity and my identity (thinking that it's a good opportunity objectively, it would practically help my goals, it's a logical step considering many factors, etc), but I noticed that if I really care about an opportunity I feel like I'm more likely to get rejected or at least I've had an extremely hard time coping. I start over analyzing the system in place and how the process was done and start finding faults. A good skill if I need to improve something, but not very useful on the other end. I think this is because if I focus on the system, while also recognizing what I could have done better, it keeps me from thinking that there is something fundamentally wrong with me because I wasn't accepted / didn't "pass" the test of the opportunity.
Any tips on coping? Also, this has become more of a problem recently when I'm dealing with peers rather than just regular job opportunities or applications that are off-campus (like scholarships etc, especially when dealing with a company, rather than an on-campus opportunity through a student-run organization or through professors).
Does anyone have trouble dealing with "cuts" or rejection based opportunities? Typically, I try to create some emotional distance between the opportunity and my identity (thinking that it's a good opportunity objectively, it would practically help my goals, it's a logical step considering many factors, etc), but I noticed that if I really care about an opportunity I feel like I'm more likely to get rejected or at least I've had an extremely hard time coping. I start over analyzing the system in place and how the process was done and start finding faults. A good skill if I need to improve something, but not very useful on the other end. I think this is because if I focus on the system, while also recognizing what I could have done better, it keeps me from thinking that there is something fundamentally wrong with me because I wasn't accepted / didn't "pass" the test of the opportunity.
Any tips on coping? Also, this has become more of a problem recently when I'm dealing with peers rather than just regular job opportunities or applications that are off-campus (like scholarships etc, especially when dealing with a company, rather than an on-campus opportunity through a student-run organization or through professors).