Anything That Helps When Trying To Let Young States Or Parts Show Up In The Therapy Session?

[Justmehere]

I'm not DID, but I do have dissociated ego states. I've worked through or integrated much of it. I often can't dissociate even if I wanted too.

There is one dissociative feeling or state (not a full personality, but I guess kind of shut out in a similar way as a DID alter) that I haven't worked through. It feels young. I speak in a young sounding voice, but only in a way my therapist would recognize.

I'm really struggling to allow myself to feel so young and so vulnerable in therapy and let this state be there. Any suggestions on how to allow it to happen? It's happening other places...

 

[7Cs]

Not DID either and no official dissociative disorder though tests have pointed to DDNOS or OSDD.

Have you tried inviting "anyone" to join you in therapy?
I'm not sure how well this actually works but I sometimes do this before sessions.

 

[Justmehere]

Have you tried inviting "anyone" to join you in therapy?
I'm not sure how well this actually works but I sometimes do this before sessions.

No, what do you mean? Like inviting the state into the room or an imaginary support person?

 

[ninja]

I've found blankets, stuffed animals or coats and boots helps me feel safer. Particularly blankets or quilts. The weight is nice.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Holding onto a pillow while sitting on a corner of the couch helped me. I sure hope that you find what best works for you.

 

[7Cs]

No, what do you mean? Like inviting the state into the room or an imaginary support person?

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Usually on my way to therapy I'll invite any ego states/ parts to join me in therapy. I just talk kind of calmly in my head and let "it" know that it's welcome there to express whatever it wants to, if it wants to.

Kind of the "ask inside" idea which has surprisingly worked for me.

 

[7Cs]

I've found blankets, stuffed animals or coats and boots helps me feel safer. Particularly blankets or qui...

I like this idea.

Maybe even bringing a coloring book and crayons if it feels that young and if you're comfortable with bringing them. I'd probably talk to my T beforehand though. :D

 

[watundah]

Argh. I have several parts who come out in writing exercises but I cannot feel them as separate entities and they don't talk in therapy. My T invites them but I cannot. I wish that I.could as the Helper Protector part says amazing things and I could use that kind of support.

This week my T suggested trying a meditative state to welcome and feel their presence.

I am envious of your connection to parts. I think. I fear losing control and having her observe me as a part vs self.

 

[7Cs]

This week my T suggested trying a meditative state to welcome and feel their presence.

I'd like to hear more about this meditation if you can share it.

 

[watundah]

I had fallen into a pit of sadness and there was no way I could even get to that place. If we try again, I will report back

 

[Spaced Out]

What do you mean it's happening other places? Do you mean like the grocery store or other public places you go? I do know what you mean about speaking in a young sounding voice and having one that is shut out. This happens to me as well. My situation is similar, but my T is not going to understand this unfortunately. I also have trouble allowing myself to feel vulnerable

 

[pixel]

I'm really struggling to allow myself to feel so young and so vulnerable in therapy and let this state be there. Any suggestions on how to allow it to happen?

I'm DID, so I'm not sure if my suggestions will gel with you.

First thing, if I block parts from coming out, they become resentful of me and turn up unannounced at inconvenient moments. :eek: It really helps to let them share time in the body.

Second, your therapist ought to know your feelings about letting this part come out. S/he can work with you to feel comfortable, and be open with you about what will be discussed with your part. My therapist would always fill me in on who turned up in therapy, what they said or did, etc. This really helped me trust her and know that my parts where getting the help they needed. It helped my various parts to feel safe and gain the confidence that they were being heard.


Presently, my tribe are really loud in my head, and I don't feel like I'm owning my words. Im going to leave it there for now and possibly come back to this thread later.
I hope there was something helpful to you. :unsure: