General Are These Signs Cause For Concern?

[Fadeaway]

Please stop trying to read into things that may or may not be there. You are only hurting yourself. I say this as someone who lost a parent to suicide and who has struggled with SI myself. You can not take this responsibility upon your self. He is a grown man and it is literally HIS life. If he chooses to stop living that life, that is no one choice but his and there isn't anything anyone can do to make a damn bit of difference to someone who doesn't want help.

Trust me, I have spent more time analyzing suicide that most people put into their favorite hobby.

As far as the CD's go, he may need to get rid of them because they became a trigger.

 

[StarChild]

Hi @caligirl03, I read your posts of the past a bit...

- Is this the same guy you broke up with in 2014, 2015, 2016 (and came together with and so on)? And yes, of course he needs help. Maybe call or write his Family or some good friends. But on the long run, how healthy are the two of you for each other? As it seems, there are quite a few unhealthy mechanisms going on... Did he act like this before? Especially when the two of you were broken up in the past?

Just know, that this is not a judgement, but I do think, that you need intense help as well. As such relationship dynamics do and will damage people in the long term. All the best!

 

[Casey_03]

I think it's possible you are reading into things. I have done impulsive things like give away very valuable "prized" possessions, and I have made offhand remarks that sound very dark (like his "call it a career" comment) ... and I had friends think I was hinting at something terrible with all of that behavior, but I wasn't. I was just impulsive and erratic. There was nothing more to it.

That said, you obviously know him better than those of us on the forum do, but you did offer a disclaimer in your post that you have a tendency to let your imagination run away with you at times. I think all you can do is be direct with him, tell him you're there for him if things get that bad, and maybe if there is a mutual friend or some third party he is friends with -- ask that person if they are picking up on any red flags or if he seems okay to them.

Ultimately, even if he is suicidal, there's only so much you can do.

 

[caligirl03]

Well he's my ex so kinda irrelevant now, however, he was also my childhood friend, and I still care for his well being. And yeah, untreated PTSD is a doozy to deal with, as I'm sure just about everyone on here can attest to.

 

[Friday]

I would suggest that telling his family, when he purposefully has not, is not your place.

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