General Are these signs of coming out of isolation?

[Fitlady]

The fact that he was keeping in contact at all during his isolation is huge! I had a feeling he'd come back around.

Go slow and keep conversations lite until he's up for more important dialogue.

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Thank u. I will definitely make sure that I do that.

Yep. This is exactly how it happens with me. Happy to hear that he came out on the other side and is back to normal.....or as normal as we can ever be :laugh:

Thank u. Feels good talking to him. He is initiating all the contact right now and asking to go out on dates. I am just observing, listening, and responding.

 

[Fitlady]

Just updating. My boyfriend came out of isolation in October and we celebrated my birthday back in October. Since then we have had constant contact and visits with few shorter timeframes of isolation and low contact...but he has never stopped calling and texting. He is definitely cyclical and I am finding his need for isolation definitely correlates with his job projects and pressure. When he tells me about some stresses he is experiencing with his projects and he needs to get out of the rat race..... I now know that it will probably lead to some isolation time...even before he actually does it. I think dealing with the first big one months ago....helped me recognize his behavioral patterns and that he does come back. In fact I said that to him (when he was not symptomatic) and he said yes I do come back. So now I have not physically laid eyes on him in about 3 weeks...but we talk/text once to three times each or every other day. He shared with me that he is disassociating a lot right now, losing time, and missed a week with work dealing with headaches and not being connected. If I send a text....he will respond...but I can definitely tell it is hard for him to respond with more than one or two lines responses. He does manage to say that I am important to him and he is sorry he is not able to communicate right now. So I guess I am updating this to say that....what most of the sufferers said definitely is in point....he has a pattern...he will tell me when he is not ok.....but he tries to stay in contact with me when he has moments of clarity. This time is different and easier. I know what to expect, I know him staying In contact is huge and I appreciate his efforts, and I know he comes back.

 

[Fitlady]

Ok just another update. So I think he is just about out of isolation. This time was a little different. This one was about 6.5 weeks so a little shorter. He also was not as communicative with calling and texting...but still in touch. He also had irritated me more this time and I basically texted him and said I would not try and reach out to him and wait for him. Probably the first time I had to do that. I still sent an occasional prayer and heart emoji. Well he called this morning very talkative and essentially trying to catch me up on everything (some I already knew and he had said before?). But what was different is that he had the nerve to be mad that I was not calling and checking on him (even when I knew he would not answer because well I knew he could not really communicate). So although he would have probably not answered....he still wanted me to keep calling...go figure. I basically said I did that to not make myself crazy and not be irritated with him. And I said I would never not answer your call and I knew u would reach out when u came back around and when u were ready...which is what he did. I said that now u have reached out...i feel like it is ok to call u again and he was ok please do...

So he notices everything I do or do not while he is symptomatic. But this was the first time that I let him know that I have to back off of him not just for him to getter better but also for me too. And he understood.