Are You Still Living With The Abuser ?

[kenziii]

are you still living with the persons who abused you ? your parents or boyfriend or whoever ?
i find it very difficult , i was emotionally abused by parents and physically abused sometimes
i can't get over how they hurt me and the psychiatrist asks me every time to like be strong just get over them ! how can i do this ! i can't forget
plz let me know if you could forget how they treated you bad and are dealing with them like nothing happened ! i will appreciate your replies a lot , i just need to know if that is my own problem or it is something common ?
i can forgive but i can't forget the pain especially when they are in front of me all the day

 

[sun seeker]

i can't get over how they hurt me and the psychiatrist asks me every time to like be strong just get over them !

If I had a psychiatrist like this, I would be looking for a new psychiatrist ASAP. Not helpful and not realistic. S/he ought to know better.

Unfortunately, you are not the only one who has tried to heal while living with their original abusers. It just doesn't work. You need to get away before you can really begin to heal. I don't know what your circumstances are and why you are living with your abusers, so I won't say getting away is easy. But it's necessary. Is there something, even some small thing, you can do towards gaining more independence? Meanwhile, you can always post here and get your feelings out, at least.

I am very sorry you are going through this, and no, there is nothing wrong with you. Anyone would feel as you do under the circumstances.

 

[mary1979]

How old are you?

 

[kenziii]

If I had a psychiatrist like this, I would be looking for a new psychiatrist ASAP. Not helpful and...

thank u so much , your reply made me feel a lot better ! because you totally understand me :( i am trying to be independent i will do my best but i am just newly graduated i don't have enough money to live alone but i will do my best

 

[kenziii]

If I had a psychiatrist like this, I would be looking for a new psychiatrist ASAP. Not helpful and...

anyway i will try to see another therapist because this one seems not very understanding of my condition thanks again :)

 

[kenziii]

How old are you?

i am 24

 

[sun seeker]

You're welcome. I wish I could do something more helpful to fix it, but at least you do have the forum.

 

[EveHarrington]

I urge you to move toward a place where you can move away from those that abused you. I think your healing will depend on this. I don't think it's possible to fully heal around an abuser who caused trauma.

 

[Tinyflame]

It's difficult to manage abuse of any kind. It just becomes more & more damaging. So does denial that it is or has occurred.

:hug:

 

[kenziii]

I urge you to move toward a place where you can move away from those that abused you. I think you...

yes i think so ! thanks a lot !

 

[kenziii]

It's difficult to manage abuse of any kind. It just becomes more & more damaging. So does denial that it...

exactly ! i suppressed my emotions for a long time ! now my emotions need to come out of me ! i feel like trapped !

 

[Tinyflame]

Yes denial from yourself or the other person(s).

:hug: