News Article claiming divorce caused ptsd

[Friday]

The only thing I hate worse than pity, is being called a "hero".
Why? Because I didn't die?
I've had it happen more than once. Made me want to vomit every time. I don't talk about it to anyone anymore

Yup.

Where I come from? Hero is synonymous with the dead or the suicidal :shifty:

There aren’t a lot of worse insults. A few. Coward / individual / traitor. But not a lot.

Heroes are in the ground.

Full stop.

 

[Neverthesame]

Heroes are in the ground.

Full stop.

Exactly.

 

[Deleted member 45988]

I don't often think about and sort of forget that I got beat up by a group of guys in an assault which including getting kicked in the head and knocked out, but events surrounding a non-violent sexual assault repeatedly totally consume me.

So I can believe that there are people for which divorce might be worse than all sorts of violent occurrences. I think things depend on circumstances and core motivations and beliefs and how surprising divorce might be. Not sure if divorce should be considered a trauma or not though.

 

[shimmerz]

divorce should be considered a trauma or not though.

Divorce caused my PTSD (that I didn’t know i had) rekindling. Divorce is such a sterile word. It isn't about the divorce. It is about what is happening during the divorce. Threats to life, threats to property and a spouse while on that property, threats to children.... so many things can happen that the word 'divorce' just doesn't cover. Attachment disorders can get completely re-engaged as well.

The article in question? Written by someone who has no concept of what PTSD is. That was obvious.

 

[Deleted member 541]

Some divorces can drag out for yrs. with emotional blackmail, and threatening with taking children away being a huge issue. The stress from that alone can drive a parent nuts.

 

[Mee]

I glimpsed through some of this because if a mention in another thread.

Pokey slow hits it on the nail for me. It's also not clear what LEADS to divorce: many prompts could meet section A criteria . Non contact sexual abuse for example? Very imaginable during a nasty break up.

I think that there are divorces and Divorces. My cracking point was the breaking up with my Rapist by deception where the sec had been manipulative and abusive. Now at what point the ptsd started i’m NOT sure. After the first not right sex I was certainly ’wrong footed’ . Almost unbelievably like something from a terrible melodrama I had a more ’normal’ rape a couple of weeks later which I think I would have handled differently after the event had it nig been for the abusive sex with my rape by deception partner. But I processed it so ( not knowing about the deception part still) for some time still) and it was only when some of the lies were discovered I broke down.

My Dr initially said it was a short term stress disorder ( tsd I think he called it cannot remember now ) then after a few weeks changed the diagnosis in combination with therapist to ptsd. It meets critera a going through it. But if I were married to him I would probably just say ’my divorce’ . Like I say ’my break up’ to most people now. Tbh who the hell is entitled to my details? Me, my dr, my life partner ( who was aware and also lied to by the guy). No one else is. It sordid enough isn’t it? I have been shamed on social media and in done of my social circle because people think I lied about the rape or him or some such.