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[axiomatic]

Hello, I joined after reading a few forums and posts about this site (I am so glad to have found the 'stress cup' post fyi}. I joined because of romantic feelings I have with a woman with PTSD due to medical issues and surgeries that have revolved around it. A cogenital heart issue FYI. Also, an exbf abandoned her shortly after her last surgery about 2 years confounding the trauma she experienced. I don't want to get into too many sob stories here as this is an intro post! Just to keep things short we have had a mostly fantastic friendship that is somewhere between being good friend and romantic. The push pull has been going on for little over a year. BTW I am diagnosed on the ASD spectrum with asperger's syndrome. I am not sure if this makes me unique as a supporter on here but either way I look forward to learning more and joining in on any discussions in the future.

 

[anthony]

Welcome to the community @axiomatic.

 

[Seagreen]

Welcome ( :

 

[Nighthawk]

Welcome :)

 

[axiomatic]

Thank you! I have gotten a lot out of reading the forums thus far. There is nothing better than a good sanity check :p

 

[Sighs]

@axiomatic - just a thought... people on the ASD spectrum tend to be left brain dominated. PTSD is often the right brain hijacking the show. That can make it very hard for someone with ASD to communicate with someone with PTSD. Being aware of that may help. Best wishes!

 

[ASDsupporter]

I don't doubt that this will be very trying. Fortunately I have had many years of counseling to help me get in touch with my emotions and communicate as best I can. I understand and am empathic when a loved one is in pain. The PTSD friend and I have had a great time getting to know each in the last year and we have chemistry and a connection. I believe she has had PTSD issues due to her heart condition for a while but it especially came about after surgery 2 years ago. On top of that a parasitic and commitmentphobic bf dumped her right after. In the last year she has almost always initiated any romantic contact then backed away describing that she was not over the betrayal. She never backed away too long and we resumed our friendship and having great times together. We are very actime friends and hike and enjoy the great outdoors. We enjoy trying new restaurants, nightlife, soccer games, movies and always have a blast. This last time she has backed off about 2 weeks total except contact with me to let me know that even though a recent romantic moment was fantastic she could not be in a relationship because she has done zero work when it comes to relationships and ptsd. She just started with a new counselor that specializes in cardiac trauma so I am sure that is very painful. Perhaps this last recent moment which included sex for the first time triggered something. I don't know. I was very understanding and supportive the day we talked but later on after she left I deleted my fb for a break. Not because of her but I needed space from the negativity on there. The next night I got a text from her asking if I deleted her as a friend. I said I just took a break from fb and then texted she was my friend no matter what and nothing would change that. It has been crickets ever since. Not a word from her and I figure she needs space so I haven't followed up on communicating. Incidently, I reactivated my FB account that night. This woman has touched my heart in a profound way and I truly want what is best for her I really do. It's difficult and part of me wishes I could walk away. My intuition keeps telling me no way that this person is worth it so I am prepared to fight for her. Anyway, should I just wait for her to contact me? Or is there a point where I should send her a brief how are you text??

 

[axiomatic]

Oh, that is me axiomatic. I accidently commented as a guest in the post above.

 

[BloomInWinter]

Welcome to the forum, ASDsupporter. I can't read long posts which are not broken up into paragraphs, but I did my best. I hope you find comfort and hope here.

 

[axiomatic]

Thank you very much. I will definitely use paragraphs next time I feel so inclined to post such an enormous comment. I was on a mobile device and I just couldn't stop writing. Lol.

 

[intothelight]

Welcome to the forum!

 

[KP the nut]

Hi and welcome.