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[Missycat]

@stp2012 :(
It is difficult so the only person who can make the decision is you and you have to do what is best and right for you and your family.

 

[Deleted member 34328]

Thanks for understanding @Missycat

 

[Pakadlangitok]

Very scary. It makes me less trustful of T's. I am sorry. It just does. Reporting does not solve a psychpath. It makes it worse. I was in DV and when it was reported (not by a T but it got on news and I am not even the one who got it on the news. I wanted it quiet!) well THEN all went to hell.
Still, I cant say what they should or should not do because if a child can be saved from a monster, well, then they should be!
So I am really mixed and scared on this.

 

[Jen12]

Hi,
This is my first start of a thread , so i hope im clear about what i want to say/ ask ( i reply to...

I can totally relate to this situation. My therapist has told me one many occasions that due to my abusers being based in a school, if i mention anything that could identify them or there area of work within the school she would have to report it to safe guarding.
I told her if this was to happen she would be putting my life in serious danger. However she was adament that she has a duty of care to protect others in that school from them.

I totally understand she wants to protect others, as do i ...... but this is a secret ive kept for 10yrs and for it to be outed by her contacting safe guarding and then leading to what i can imagine a court case ect terrifies me!

I now have to so so careful what i say in our sessions as any slip of the tounge that could identify them would be catastrophic. When your emotionally drained during sessions this is so so hard to stay on the ball and in control of thinking before you soeak.

I wish you all the best with your therapy sessions and hope it doesnt impact them too much x

 

[Deleted member 34328]

I can totally relate to this situation. My therapist has told me one many occasions that due to my abuser...

I'm sorry. I don't think that's right. Probably ignorance on my part, but how is it helpful or healing if you can't trust your therapist and have to measure every word? I completely understand your reasons for not giving out identifications, as well as the conflicting emotions of your T. It has to be a difficult almost lose lose scenario... (I'm so so thankful my T isn't pushing for that - I feel the same as you do).

I just don't understand how you can tiptoe around someone you're supposed to be able to be open and honest with. Someone who makes you feel safe with. Therapy for PTSD takes a lot of hard work and trust in the person who's walking through it with you.

 

[Missycat]

@Jen12 , i am so sorry for the situation you are in. I was shocked when my T made the comment, at first it didnt resinate, it was only later that it hit me. We absolutely deserve to be protected , however i understand that we wouldnt want others to suffer too. A few have commented on previous replies that often the pain of reporting doesnt always see an end to the abuse as nothing is done by the authorities.
Its a shame that you feel uncomfortable now speaking to your T, have you spoken to her? I am seeing mine Sunday afternoon.
Hope all goes ok for you.

 

[Missycat]

Had my T session today and asked about the comment she had made regarding reporting the abuse and how it had made me feel.
She said that she had also reflected and had thought about it too. She explained that she had wanted to be honest with me and that she would have had a legal obligation to protect others and me. I always tell her that i feel racked with guilt and i belittle what happend and she said she also wanted me to see that what happened to me was serious and that my abuser should take responsibility for it. It was her way of letting me know that what happened was not acceptable and that i was being listened to and believed and if necessary action taken ( there were so many missed opportunites when i was little). I understand her and am comfortable with this ( probably helped by the fact he is in another country and not coming back to live here).
Thanks again all for your help and support.
MC