Attachment In Therapy - Another Thread

[Pencil]

Rumors, yes, BUT :D

You're right about me going 'but', and I'm very aware of it. And that's why I posted this thread. The moment I think I have made up my mind about anything, I jump to another place. This is very unlike me - in all other areas of my life I'm decisive, and I don't do post mortems. This dilly dallying has been going on for more than a year now and it's driving me nuts.

I dunno, I just hate the idea of drugging the child :(.

 

[Rumors]

I understand. It helped me over the hump. I didn't like it either, but I came to realize I wanted to happy more than I wanted to be right. I wanted peace more than I wanted to be strong. Before it was over with, I found out that there was room for it all. I just couldn't see it until I gained some clarity. I was too wound up in the turmoil and emotion to find any clarity. It was a leap of faith. I am glad I took it. My life would be drastically different otherwise. It isn't perfect, but I am afforded the ability to seek new avenues for coping with things. Before I was so foggy I couldn't see the forest for the trees. Hang in there.

Sometimes the hardest things to do are the easiest answers. Our minds just tend to tell us to beware because it must be dangerous if it is that easy. Sometimes, it is just really that easy and we need not complicate the issue by inserting our perception of truth or reality. It's ok just to let things be and grow organically without feeling like you have to dissect them. Breathe and take a step...you have got this!!!

 

[Pencil]

I wanted peace more than I wanted to be strong.

Mmmmm. No 'but'. :tup:

And you think the therapist is cool? Honest question.

 

[Pencil]

I am not sure this has come out as sincere as I truly mean it to be

Yes, it did

 

[Rumors]

I can't answer that question fairly. Plus, it doesn't matter what I think ;). I believe that you will have to find it within yourself to make the best choices you can and then have faith in the process.

 

[Pencil]

dammit!

:hug:

 

[Rumors]

I know..it's the medicine..LMAO!

 

[Pencil]

Me too :roflmao:

 

[Pencil]

Thanks Rumors :hug:

 

[Valentino]

The psychodynamic orientation is by nature withholding and cold.
You see, I've always hid in my head; feelings terrify me, and talking about things do not get my feelings and thoughts in the same room.
...All the talk seems to drive my thoughts and emotions further apart. ... that physical contact is gaining in psychotherapy ... And I know this is what I need,...

So, it looks like you're more interested in finding a warmer type of help or therapy?

Something that isn't as distant and cold? Something that doesn't lead with mental strategies? More so something more towards experiential, that might lead more with the physical or emotional body? Or maybe energetic healing modalities or spiritual disciplines?

Am I reading you correctly?

 

[Pencil]

Something that isn't as distant and cold? Something that doesn't lead with mental strategies? More so something more towards experiential, that might lead more with the physical or emotional body?

Yes you are reading me correctly.

Or maybe energetic healing modalities or spiritual disciplines?

Nope.

I survived by becoming overly analytical on the one hand, and creating a fantasy world on the other. Therapy, for ME (not for anybody who wants or needs something else) has to get me out of my head. Talking talking talking makes me feel desperate. What happens in talk therapy is that I end every session with a feeling of 'f*ckit!! It is costing me a fortune for me to explain to you so you understand a bit better what I've understood for yonks!!'

 

[Justmehere]

Yes you are reading me correctly.
I end every session with a feeling of 'f*ckit!! It is costing me a fortune for me to explain to you so you understand a bit better what I've understood for yonks!!'

I have felt this way so often in talk therapy - you said it so well! I'm sorry you end up feeling this way. The therapist I see now uses some somatic therapies and says talking alone doesn't help some people with PTSD and attachment issues, and can even backfire and make things worse. I do other things too like taking dance and yoga classes, to begin to connect with my body and get out of being in my head so much. It takes a lot for me. I wish I had any answers or advice, but I don't - just wanted to say I could relate.