Relationship Bad Episode

[Lucy Locket]

I’ve just read the whole thread and I can relate so much. Reading this has made me feel much better because you guys know what I am going through.
I also know I can leave but don’t want to. I will stick it out, but not if my own mental health is suffering. Since lock down things have got worse, but I have hope they will improve. I have set my own boundaries too and it has helped.
Thank you for your indirect support. Good luck to you all!

 

[Blue34]

I really liked the reply about negative coping mechanisms. Since I posted and set the boundary he went right back to the behavior again so I stood up for myself and well needless, I’m at the point of (I don’t want to leave) wishing it will get better isn’t realistic and I have tried too much. Something is way off in this situation and it sucks to say...he is acting even worse than when he was drunk, unmedicated, and untreated. I think it all is just so messy now that it’d be nearly impossible to untangle and work through. I have this empty feeling coupled with defeat, no optimism, and no motivation anymore for him. PTSD or whatever it is won the battle. So I wake up every morning reciting what someone in this forum told me, he is comfortable with where he is at even if it causes me pain...radical acceptance.