Relationship Big Shock Tonight

[Iam]

Praying for you and your wife Jawn.

 

[AdamAnt]

Praying for you and your wife Jawn.

Same here....

 

[Jawn]

Thank you all. We talked last night and she says she still wants a divorce, but on the advice of her T she wants to try a separation for now. The T does think that focusing on her and not worrying about other issues is a good idea right now. She told my wife that divorce was too drastic a step to take right now.

So we are trying to figure out the financial details of getting her a place to live. She has already found a place and the price is good, but it will be tough right now to pay the bills on both places. So lots of details to work out.

I guess this was better than pushing ahead with the divorce, but I'm not sure I really like it either. I guess it will give her some time to focus and not worry about any pain she is causing me. I just hope this works and the T can get to the bottom of what caused her trauma and help her deal with it. Then maybe she can start to live again and feel emotions too......and hopefully love for me again.

I would be interested in hearing from anyone who has gone through a separation and hearing how it worked for them. Or what worked and what didn't during the separation.

Thanks,

Jawn

 

[mrbarthel]

It dose look like we are in a similar boat. 2 months so far for me with my separation and it has its good days and bad ones. I have faith that my wife will be home soon. I will pray for you and your wife and offer my story as it unfolds more.

 

[Jawn]

Thanks mrbarthel. I will share my story too as I am able. I know this is going to be difficult, but hopefully it will give my wife what she needs right now and put her on the road to getting a handle on her PTSD so she can live again. Of course I hope she comes back to me, but I also realize she may not. I need to focus on me and get me better too.

Thanks,

Jawn

 

[Jline]

Hi Jawn,

I am praying for you to have good health, happiness and healing for you both. Peace to you and your wife.

 

[Jawn]

Thank you Jline. I appreciate it very much.

Jawn

 

[Jawn]

Well I sit here tonight looking around at the boxes she has packed today and looking at bare shelves, etc. around the house. This is very hard, but with the help of my T I think I am coping better than I thought I would. She won't move into her new place until the 1st, but she is getting ready.

I still hope that this step will help put her on the road to recovery and eventually back to me. At least she told her friend that we are just taking a "time out" while she focuses on getting better and we will see what happens at that point. I also noticed that she packed some pictures of the 2 of us, so hopefully that is a good sign as well.

I will post more as I am able to.

Thansk,

Jawn

 

[Nicolette]

Hang in there Jawn.

 

[Iam]

I am sorry Jawn. I am glad you have your T to help you thru this time.

 

[AdamAnt]

I'm sorry you're going through this, Jawn. Good to see you findinging the positive aspects of a less-than-perfect situation though...

Best of luck to you and her.

 

[Learning123]

I'm sorry too Jawn. I think there are many of us going through something similar and it wasn't too long ago that I too came home to find everything packed up and in boxes. I know it can feel like you are being totally shut out of your wife's life right now, but it sounds like you are being positive and seeing this as her taking the time she needs to work towards the future.

Just know that you are not alone and that there are people who care. Stay strong and try not to lose perspective on what's going on, when I struggle I read the 'understanding PTSD' article over and over and it gives me clarity.